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⌈ Secret Post #1655 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Secret of NIMH/Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH]

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[Professor Layton and the Mask of Miracle]

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[Homestuck]

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[Sailor Moon, Yu-Gi-Oh!]

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[True Grit]

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[Aqua Teen Hunger Force]

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[Pretty Little Liars]

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[I'm From Barcelona]

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[SJR]

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[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]

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(Lindsay Ellis/Channel Awesome)

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[Teahouse]

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[HIM (band), Bam Margera]

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[Mahou Sensei Negima!]

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[Russell T. Davies]

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[Britney Spears]

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[Rome]

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[Channel Awesome/That Guy With the Glasses]

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[Voltron Force, Last Exile]

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[Fire Emblem: The Sacred Stones]

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[Victorious]

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[Glee]

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[Eerie Cuties]

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[Last of the Summer Wine]

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[The League of Gentlemen]

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[Channel Awesome/That Guy With the Glasses]

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[Agora]

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[Doctor Who]

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[Hannah Murray]

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[Jem]

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[Florence + the Machine (Cosmic Love)]

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33. [ SPOILERS for Hanna (movie)]

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34. [ SPOILERS for Supernatural]

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35. [ SPOILERS for Scott Pilgrim (movie)]

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36. [ SPOILERS for Sheryl: Kiss in the Galaxy]

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37. [ SPOILERS for Doctor Who]

[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]

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38. [ TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

[A:tLA]

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39. [ TRIGGER WARNING for incest]

[The Borgias]

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40. [ TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

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41. [ TRIGGER WARNING for domestic abuse]

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42. [ TRIGGER WARNING for incest]

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43. [ TRIGGER WARNING for stalking]

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44. [ TRIGGER WARNING for child sexual abuse ]

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I think the reason you were cursed at is because it's not really about the request anymore, the knowledge would still always be present that this person who you trusted and believed would take care of you is willing and wanting to do very inappropriate things that violate your trust.

Even if the OP had then chosen to refuse, how would you live with the knowledge? It may seem silly to say but it's really easy to tell other loved ones about the abuser and now that the OP's stepdad had made it clear they were willing to do that it's reasonable to assume you'd live in a state of fear.

Besides that, I can speak from personal experience in almost exactly the same situation. Though it wasn't for anime, I had asked my stepfather for something and he asked for sexual favors in compensation. I was 14, tried to laugh it off because it just seemed like a terrible joke, and the next day he brought it up again. When I feebly tried to get out of it saying I was tired, he said "he'd help me do it" anyway and that was that.

I remember being literally paralyzed with fear. I didn't tell my Mom for at least a year and it's only because I broke down and ended up telling my counselor who said she would tell if I didn't.

So point of long explanation is that once it's out there it can never be taken back whether it's acted on or not. And there's the added fuckery of it being someone you love and if you're afraid to lose their love it no longer becomes about the request, but something much more complicated.

In general, above user probably got pissed because they felt it was insensitive, but I realize that not everyone has had this particular experience as it is a unique situation and therefore you'd have questions.

TL;DR It happened to me, I was paralyzed with terror; only wish it was as easy as saying no to erase that kind of implied threat.

I read the first couple sentences of this comment and was going to thank you for explaining to the anon why people were jumping on them, but now I'm going to say-

I'm so, so sorry you went through that. =( I can't even....I can't even imagine. I don't know you, but I really hope you're doing alright since that incident. I also hope that your stepfather is really, REALLY far away from you right now, preferrably in prison. Just from this comment, you sound really mature, grounded, and awesome. You seem like a really cool person. Again, I'm sorry you went through that. You didn't deserve such a thing to happen to you. No one does.

...I just wanted to say that. Not very eloquent, but I just had to tell you that.

I appreciate you taking time to say that to me- that was very nice of you. <3 In any case, I am much better, not to worry. I only responded with my experience because I felt that anon could see that while it's an odd-sounding situation, it's unfortunately not an isolated one. Also, to hopefully make OP feel less alone.

Thankfully I no longer live in that situation, I moved out as soon as I turned 18. He's going to be moving out of the country sometime in the future and I've sought counseling since then. Also, I'm very flattered you think I'm mature, grounded, and awesome. :) You all of the same if you take time to respond to someone's comment in a thoughtful manner such as yours.

Also, it was quite eloquent- not to worry. In a very unrelated note, I love Avatar. Like your icon. <3

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