That's what I mean, too. How does calling a thing what it is trivialise it? Rape is non-consensual sex. There is no better way to describe rape than to call it non-consensual sex. What I mean is that we shouldn't have to use the word 'rape' to denote everything that is wrong and terrible about rape; the word non-con carries every single one of those implications, as far as I'm concerned.
same anon