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⌈ Secret Post #1670 ⌋

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What sort of level of seriousness are we talking about?

I don't know, man, to me this secret kind of smacks of "I'm afraid to be in relationships, so instead I'm going to live vicariously through these characters." I feel bad saying that, because I'm sure that's not an uncommon criticism lobbed at people where it's really not warranted, but it's just the vibe I get from these words.

That is the feeling I get too.

yeah. pretty much.

truth hurts.

So you act like an asshole and turn into a extremist fan because you're afraid of relationships?

Nowhere in the secret did I imply that I was a gigantic fucking asshole. Not everybody who takes shipping seriously acts like a total elitist douchebag about it.

I also never said that I was afraid of relationships. Really, I just don't want them. I don't see what's so great about sex nor do I want it. It's useless to me. Romance is the same thing - I'm fine with just friends and family. The love I feel for them and the love that I receive is enough for me. Maybe most people want more than that, but, you know, different strokes for different folks.

Just wanted to tell you that I feel the same.

NA

Then what do you mean by taking shipping "too seriously"? It kind of sounds to me like someone who acts like a total elitist douchebag about it.

Re: OP

(Anonymous) - 2011-08-01 00:11 (UTC) - Expand

Maybe the fact that you take it so seriously is a sign you do want to try romantic relationships? Maybe that's why you get so caught up in living through them. Stepping outside your comfort zone may be what you really need.

How can you claim your love for your OTPs is almost equal to the love a couple feels for each other when you have no idea what that feels like, nor care to know, evidently?

This is what I came to say! It's fine to not want to experience romantic love, OP, but no, the way you feel about fictional characters is not the same love a couple feels for one another. It's not even close. The fact that you can think this is even possible makes me think you may need to speak to a professional about your inability to distinguish fiction from reality.

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masked-creator.livejournal.com - 2011-07-31 02:38 (UTC) - Expand

... this o__o

I can especially relate to this considering that I'm an ace. =X

#CAN'STOPWON'TSTOP
#realliferelationshipsarecomplicatedmessyandboring=X

#realliferelationshipsarecomplicatedmessyandboring

...What?

xbriyeon.livejournal.com - 2011-07-31 02:09 (UTC) - Expand

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xbriyeon.livejournal.com - 2011-07-31 15:23 (UTC) - Expand

adlanth.livejournal.com - 2011-07-31 20:04 (UTC) - Expand

My problem with what you do has nothing to do with what you get out of your OTP. Exploring things is fun and very enjoyable.

It's just that people who ship the way you do tend to expect things out of their ship that fandom can't and shouldn't give them. In a word: Faithfulness.

I get really annoyed with fans who treat their OTP like they are their own personal property. That's not on. And the fans who go batshit over the fact that there are people out there who ship their OTP with other characters -- or who take it as a personal affront when people explore a that pairing in a different dynamic just need to cool their shit. That kind of behavior just spoils the enjoyment of fandom for everyone.

Edited 2011-07-31 01:12 (UTC)

I.....actually feel similarly, to an extent.

Not sure what your situation is but from what I can gather from your secret, I can't help but feel a little sorry for you OP. Hope you can find love some day.

Shipping is fun I'll give you that I love it to pieces myself, but real love is worth taking a chance on, even if you do get hurt.

I think OP is trying to say they're aromantic, in which case you needn't feel sorry for them at all.

It's a nice thought though <3

Do your own thing, OP. If it makes you happy, and you're not making others unhappy, then you're good to go. Fuck the haters, and ship on, friend.

What's bizarre to me is everyone in this thread trying to tell you that you're ~wrong about how you feel about romance and sex, or that you ~really want a love affair, you just don't know it/are afraid/whatever. You didn't say outright that you're asexual, so I don't want to assume, but if you are, it would be pretty rude for people to tell you you don't know what you want.

THIS.

This. It would be nice if people remembered that others can have opinions different than theirs.

You are not the only person in the world like this, OP.
Ignore the assholes in this thread.

Yeah me too. I feel the same way OP. I read your secret and thought, "That's me!" Ignore the assholes. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing.

I'm with you in reading pairing fic to explore romantic feelings etc. but I'm not a serious shipper. Anyway I think you started to get "doubters" when you compared your love for a ship to love between a couple, so I guess you should be careful how you word your future secrets if you don't want that type of response?