ext_82219 ([identity profile] shahni.livejournal.com) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2007-06-20 03:37 pm

[ SECRET POST #166 ]


⌈ Secret Post #166 ⌋

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[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:05 am (UTC)(link)
*dies* Different people, different lives. I'm kind of a robot, I don't really have much in the way of emotion to begin with, and I've never been really close with them. Maybe if I had been, it'd be different, but it's not.

OH YEAH AND re: dog > parents AUUUUGH IM NOT A FURRY OR ANYTHING ahegkjaehtgkjahet

I know some people whose parents DO hate them and like, tell them that they're mistakes and worthless all the time, and surprisingly enough a lot of them are like "... yeah whatever."

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:07 am (UTC)(link)
I know some people whose parents DO hate them and like, tell them that they're mistakes and worthless all the time, and surprisingly enough a lot of them are like "... yeah whatever."
In that case, then it's abuse and the child is using a defense mechanism. It's not healthy or normal by any means to hate your child.

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:13 am (UTC)(link)
Defense mechanisms that prevent angst and woe and feeling sorry for yourself and a whole bunch of negative emotions, I'm all for it if they can keep it up!

But seriously, your parents have never been all, you're worthless/never good enough/etc? Out of curiosity, are you asian? 'Cause if you are, you got LUCKY with parents. *dies*

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:17 am (UTC)(link)
Only it's not a good thing. Often times it stops you from forming worthwhile relationships because your bond with your parents so so profoundly important in all your relationships.

But seriously, your parents have never been all, you're worthless/never good enough/etc?
Never.

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:20 am (UTC)(link)
*DIES* Y'know what's weird? I can't tell if you're the minority or I am.

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:24 am (UTC)(link)
I think it might be because I'm not in the same culture as you - I have some knowledge about how chinese-american's are raised and how it's different than from how I am. I can see how that would affect someone.

I'm sorry I jumped on you.

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:27 am (UTC)(link)
*dies* No problem, no offense taken or anything. (uhhh yeah and by minority I meant like, close-knit-families vs distant-families, I have no idea what the statistics are like with that, just that most of the people I know (from a lot of different countries and cultures actually, go confusing double parentheses) tend to fall into the latter category)

Or I might just be really weird, who knows. *dies* All good!

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:29 am (UTC)(link)
Even families who are distant with each other... it's hard for me to imagine hating your child.

I'm not saying my family is perfect, but still.

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:35 am (UTC)(link)
Probably just as hard as it is for me to imagine a family where everybody like... loves and appreciates each other or somethign aeghakejthgkjth that's actually kinda weird to think about *DIES*

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 03:56 am (UTC)(link)
I mean, I guess it's kind of I don't know, big of me, but I feel like you're missing something if you've got something that wouldn't hurt you deeply to lose.

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:01 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah! Pain!

Otherwise... I don't know. I don't think I'm missing out on anything besides that. I mean I have pretty normal relationships with everybody and stuff. And I'm probably happier than like, 75% of the world. *dies*

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:07 am (UTC)(link)
Only how happy are you if what you have means so little to you?

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:09 am (UTC)(link)
Just because they wouldn't leave gaping holes of despair when they're gone means I don't care about them? You're just kinda jumping to conclusions on your own values here...

[identity profile] a-white-rain.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:14 am (UTC)(link)
There is a difference between feeling terrible and leaving gaping holes of despair because someone you love hates you.

I am baffled that you apparently care so little about your bonds that you would flip off your parents or not even bother to do that if they hated you. I feel bad that you're parents think you're not good enough. I feel bad that you think of yourself as a 75% of a robot.

I feel bad for you.

You could be happy and have a wonderful life and maybe the secret to life is not giving a damn.

Only I don't think it is. And I feel bad for you.

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:18 am (UTC)(link)
*DIESSSS* Okay!

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:02 am (UTC)(link)
STFU AND GET BACK IN THE BROOM CLOSET, APPLIANCE

[identity profile] grayout.livejournal.com 2007-06-21 04:13 am (UTC)(link)
IM NOT AN ADDON

I'm a plug-in :)