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you ever think she maybe has an ED? moaning about being fat and posting pics of yourself all the time sounds like 99% of ED journals out there.

also helllooooooo thinspo on the left.

yeah - if she's thin and still upset about her weight that's actually pretty upsetting. i hope she gets help.

it's just that most of us with EDs take that shit to a different journal where no one has to see it. I can understand why the OP is annoyed. it's sad. :(

The girl in the mirror looks so familiar. Anyone know who she is?

I think I saw it recently in a music video, but I can't recall which one.

It's good that you're getting your feelings out, I guess, but it would be a lot more constructive to actually talk with your friend privately and see what the deal is. It definitely sounds like she has some kind of ED, and if you are recognizing that, you might be able to help her out.

You know I didn't realize how creepy that picture was until I noticed the backbone. Holy crap, I hope that's air brushed or make up or something.

Weight issues aside, I feel your pain. It's difficult to see someone only look on the bad side of things no matter what you say, and there comes a point when you have to let go. Either they'll learn or they won't, but you can't use all of your energy trying to tell them something they don't want to hear.

I think thin people who talk about their weight constantly are not only irritating, but completely thoughtless. I'm 250 pounds, and I can't even begin to count how many times I've had a much, much thinner friend bitch to me about the 5 or 10 pounds she's having trouble losing. It's like...really?? It's not even that I have this terrible self image or hate myself or am jealous or anything like that, I just think it's rude to complain about having it sooooooooo hard to someone who clearly has it worse off (yeah, they have 10 pounds to lose? I have 100, thanks). That's like me complaining about how my trust fund check hasn't come in yet to a friend who's on in debt up to their eyeballs.

What bothers me is when a thinner friend complains about how fat and therefore ugly/gross she is right in front of me.

Uggghh, yeah, that's even worse. It's like, if they think they're that bad, I can only imagine what they must secretly think of me.

I can't speak for girls who are naturally skinny, but when someone has an ED, they are not looking at their body in any kind of perspective. a 110 lb eating-disordered girl freaking out about gaining 5 lbs is going to see that as a huge issue. she sees her weight and body image as a problem on par with the struggles of her overweight friends.

I know it's hard to listen to, but it's not coming from thoughtlessness, it's coming from an illness.

that said, there are plenty of non-disordered skinny girls who are just arrogant and rude as fuck, and in that case I agree 100% with your comment.

Yeah, I was definitely talking more about just regular skinny girls. Though I'm sure there are plenty of girls with EDs who are also completely selfish and rude (and plenty who aren't, just like any other grouping of girls).

Meh, I think it's not as simple as you pretend it is. I'm about 94 pounds right now which is the heaviest I've ever been and I frequently feel bad about my weight, my stomach, my chest. Eventhough I'm classified as severely underweight and need to go to regular checkups due to my anorexia even now. Maybe you feel that you have it worse off, and maybe you do, but having a BMI under 14 and still wanting to lose weight isn't fun either. Neither is not wanting to eat, but still wanting to gain weight because you know you're gonna die if you continue the way you do now. When I get better and start gaining, like I am right now, I frequently bring up concerns. How my stomach is protruding, how my chest is getting bigger causing it to be harder for me as a trans man to be stealth, how my thighs are touching and they feel disgusting etc. When we complaing about ourselves it really isn't about you.

I'm sorry that you're struggling, but my comment wasn't really about people who have EDs. I do actually have a friend who has dealt with ED and has talked to me a little about it before, and I don't feel like it's the same thing as a just a regular thin person complaining about weight.

...That girl in the mirror isn't even that fat. She's just a little chubby, but still pretty. :/

Anyway, just tell her something like, "Hey, shut up. You're not fat. You're skinny and you're gorgeous. Stop calling yourself fat and ugly, because that makes other people who are your size or bigger feel bad about themselves, too."

this probs sounds stupid, but thanks for saying the first bit cause I glanced at the secret and was like "wow, the girl in the mirror looks kind of like me. is my body type really the standard for overweight now?"

I agree with above anon. Mirror girl looks perfectly healthy.

Exactly. I don't even think she's chubby! I'm skinny everwhere but my thighs. Women have to store their fat SOMEWHERE.

Her body type looks a lot like mine. If that's fat nowadays, yeah, no wonder so many girls are getting eating disorders. I actually think the message of the picture is gross, because the "fat" girl is just a different body type. Not everyone has the same genes.

lol so on top of this chick's issues, make her feel guilty too. that's gonna work.

My thoughts exactly.

Kinda seems like the person in question could use some loving but firm support and encouragement to seek help. I know she's being really annoying but if she has self esteem problems it seems like it wouldn't help to tell her to shut up/consider herself lucky/etc; she might just get worse.

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