[ SECRET POST #1691 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1691 ⌋


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 13 pages, 314 secrets from Secret Submission Post #242.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 3 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 1 - repeats ]
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Comments

[lolofielding.livejournal.com]

Pretty much. And at first I was blaming myself for not telling him more of what I needed (though it was my first time so I wasn't sure what it was that I needed...except less 'jabbing'). But then one time I screamed, my face clearly showing pain, because he was too being too rough and he told me to 'shut up and control myself'.

Dumped him the next morning. :-/

[green-glee.livejournal.com]

Woah. Holy shit. Good thing you did!

[lolofielding.livejournal.com]

Go me, I guess. Hard to feel proud of myself now though because it almost put me off sex for life. It's sad but, I like reading porn partly for the reassurance that it CAN be something nice.

[green-glee.livejournal.com]

I can relate. After two years of healthy relationship with fun sex I'm still very anxious because of one stupid jerk.

I still think it's awesome you realised it was him being an asshole and not you doing it wrong. It's so easy to blame yourself when you have no experience.

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

Good for you, what a awful person he sounds like.

This reminds me of the other night... I slept with a friend of mine (mutual attraction type thing) and granted we were drunk, but it had happened once before, so I figured it couldn't screw up that badly. Boy, was I wrong! Five minutes into it we switch positions, and I very clearly haven't had an orgasm, and he goes "oh did you come?" My response: "uh.............no." He later proceeds to try and stick a finger up my butt without any sort of lube at all and at that point I almost laughed at how bad it was... :P

[lolofielding.livejournal.com]

That was the sad thing. He was as much of a 'nice guy' you could get, almost the point of annoyingly sweet. But once he was on my bed he couldn't go ten minutes without getting his cock out. In the mornings I'd fake being asleep for long as I could because he'd always have morning wood and want someone to 'relieve it for him' - and, sorry, but first thing in the morning is when I want to do anything other than have sex. -_- And he couldn't accept the fact that girls aren't as easily turned on as guys....but Hell, I don't think most guys were as easily turned on as he was. 26 and he was more like a 15 year old.

Sorry, a door's been opened, I'm venting. -_-

See I was taught there's like a rule where you're not allowed to tell a guy if you haven't had an orgasm and just lie not to hurt their egos. But after my ex? Fuck 'em, always tell the truth girls, to hell if they feel bad with themselves, it's the only way to learn. Seeing as you laughed, is it ok for me to giggle a bit just at how desperate this guy sounds to try different things to turn you on. XD Still sorry for your bad time tho.

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

Please, vent away! My ears are open :)

I hate that sort of dude. "Hi, yes we are having sex, but every time we sit together doesn't necessarily equal you getting into my pants. Control your cock for a second, sheesh." There was a dude I knew like that... though for me, I'm one of those girls who does have a ridiculous sex drive, so most of the time it was okay. Sometimes though I felt like going "hey, it's okay for us to just watch a movie or have a, oh I dunno, conversation??"

Haha oh hell no, I have never faked an orgasm in my life, and don't plan to. It just seems counter-productive to me, since when I'm in a sexual situation, I'm there because I'm getting something out of it too. Not to say that an orgasm is a necessity each and every time, but if someone is trying to help me achieve that, you can bet I'm going to tell them whether they are hot or cold.

That's really funny, I never thought of the evening that way.. maybe he, in his stupid intoxicated mind, thought that sticking his finger up my ass would do it for me *eye roll*

I noticed your comment above, and I just wanted to say don't give up on sex! It's all about the partner and how much you click with them.

[lolofielding.livejournal.com]

See I only seem to have a high sex drive when I'm drunk and then I didn't mind him being like that so much. It was still sore and awkward but at least I was numbed a bit by good old alcohol. :P But yeah, the most annoying thing for me would be if I was trying to have a conversation and talk and he'd just randomly lean in to snog me or grope me - as if it was meant to be romantic other than a rude way to shut me up. <_< I think the worst time was when we were on the subway together and I could see him staring straight down my top in the reflection in the window - when we're surrounded by people! 0_o Also, constantly squeezing my boobs like a dog's chew toy was another huge turn off - which he knew annoyed me but kept on doing it. Well my 'fake one' was obviously the mistaken screaming/crying/writhing shtick though I never actually said it was an orgasm, I was just too much of a wimp to correct him. Though he was once trying dirty talk on me, again at a time when I'd wanted us to be just be talking or chilling out, and said how he wanted to "know what makes me scream" I told him that if I ever scream during sex then he's doing it wrong because that's not how I orgasm. :P Did it do a lick of good? Nope. It still meant "faster, more senseless jabbing please!" to him until I'd tell him to get out because I couldn't take anymore. I know. It just took me long enough to find a guy I was comfortable with to lose it to. Almost wish I'd lost it as a teenager and then, like those girls who do lose it young, have those carefree years to get used to it and learn what you like. At least I do know for sure what doesn't work with me now so that's something. Apologies to anyone annoyed at me using the term 'lose it'. I don't like it either, just force of habit.

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

I've got no problems with using the phrase "lose" ones virginity. That's how I always heard it referred to. *shrug*

Yeah I had sex for the first time with a guy when I was 16ish. It was "the right time" or whatever.. we happened to have been in a long-term relationship. So I've definitely had some time to practice LOL

[lolofielding.livejournal.com]

See I wish I'd waited longer when I met my guy. We had foreplay on our first night together and full on sex by the second. And it wasn't just him eager for it, I was in a "Right, I've waited so long to find the right guy, he must be it - must lose it at last!". Biiig mistake and I regret it. Maybe if I'd made him hold off for a week or more than we'd have grown closer past everything just needing to be physical. By the third night together he was already asking me to do things like 69 and doggy style and I was like; "You know I was a virgin....can I just get used to basic sex first please?"

Which didn't help that I would ALWAYS have to go on top (he was a lazy fucker...literally). Which I learned afterwards from my friends that it's the worst thing a woman can do for her first time, especially if she's not ready to be 'in control'. :-/

[subarashiine.livejournal.com]

Ack babe, you could write a book full of shitty things this dude did! I feel like he read a manual called "How to Show your Girl the Worst Time!" and followed it to a T. I assume he'd had sex a lot before he slept with you? Yeesh, talk about insensitive :/

But really, he's the idiot and not you. Try not to regret it too badly and by now you've clearly realized he was just a bad egg. There are dudes who are totally inconsiderate in bed, and then those who are not. Practice makes perfect and you'll find a sexual match ;)

[lolofielding.livejournal.com]

I might just do that. Yeah, he'd had three long-term girlfriends before and lost his virginity when he was 17 I think. So that's like nine years of experience leading to...that. One of the girls he went out with was one of my friends in high school and he used to constantly tell me how much better I was in bed than her and how she was so 'fucking frigid'. I can see that making a lot of people feel good that they're better than old girlfriends...but it made me feel even more insecure because I knew that if I was ever shit he'd have no problem telling other people about it like he did with her. :-/ Also, I'm not surprised that she was 'frigid'. She probably wanted sex as much as the rest of us - she just wanted it to be good and knew the chances were slim if it was with that jerk.

I live in hope. :) I mean I know it's possible for me to feel real 'pleasure' like that. It would just be amazing if it was another person who could make me feel that for once. Someday...

[(Anonymous)]

Apropos of nothing: if you feel a very sharp jabbing pain consistently during sex, it may be possible that the guy is hitting the cervix. That can be caused by a bad angle, or the way your particular anatomy is set up, or a combination of both. Regardless, the guy was a douchebag and you were 100% right to dump him. If you are in pain because of sex, pain that is not getting better, your partner should not tell you to just "shut up about it".