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fandomsecrets2011-10-12 07:58 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-10-12 07:58 pm
[ SECRET POST #1744 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1744 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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02.
[tinker tailor soldier spy]
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03.
[Pokemon]
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04.
[Disgaea 2]
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05.
[Reborn]
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06.
[Yahtzee/Cinema Snob]
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07.
[Fruits Basket]
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08.
[Sherlock]
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09.
[Teahouse]
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10.
[Glee]
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11.
[Law & Order: Special Victims Unit]
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12.
[Jem]
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13.
[Before Crisis: Final Fantasy VII]
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14.
[Sherlock (BBC)]
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15.
[Kingdom Hearts]
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[Reba]
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[South Park/Black Dagger Brotherhood]
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18.
[Society]
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19.
[Paris Hilton/Baccano!!]
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20.
[Paranoia Agent]
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21.
[HIMYM]
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22.
[American Beauty]
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(Phantom of the Opera/Ramin Karimloo/Hadley Fraser/Sierra Boggess)
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24. [repeat]
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25.
[Card Captor Sakura]
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26.
[Steve Jobs]
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27.
(adventure time)
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28.
[Supernatural]
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29.
[Owl City]
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30.
[Game of Thrones]
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31.
[The Phantom of the Opera 25th Anniversary edition]
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32.
[Glee]
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[HP]
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[HP]
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35.
[Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality]
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36.
[HP]
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37. [TRIGGER WARNING for miscarriage, depression]
[HP]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 094 secrets from Secret Submission Post #248.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 1 (yes, AGAIN) - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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(Anonymous) 2011-10-13 12:27 pm (UTC)(link)I've been through a similar thing with my family, though it was my mother who was the "shrew". She spent years of my childhood nagging me, berating me and not allowing me to do anything without getting screamed at. I definitely wore me down and affected the person I ended up growing into. So I can sort of see where Kevin Spacey is coming from in the movie. I wish I had been brave enough to throw a plate at the wall. Perhaps it would have scared my mother off from the constant harassment. Maybe I would be a braver, more assertive person if I had...
tl;dr
The final straw was when my mother said 'I can't love you if you're trans' and said I ought to live on the street for being so ugly. So I left an extremely angry note for her and ran away, squatting for a few months in various houses and working wherever I could to fund myself.
Things between us are still hard, but better- I'm seeking therapy for myself to attempt to cope with the emotional damage and we're talking to each other- albeit in extremely odd, boundary-defined ways.
But my point is that throwing a plate of food to alarm your mother is never appropriate, because all it does is shock and confuse- it accomplishes nothing. Writing her a letter is a good outlet for that frustration, because it gets across why you are angry and frustrated with her. Use words. It's better than posturing.
In the context of the scene, the wife was entirely in the right to be angry. Her husband lost his job (leaving her to deal with the financial end of things) did something kind of illegal, and bought a very expensive car without consulting anyone. This is extremely immature behavior, especially bringing up his sex life in front of his daughter. Annette's only considered a shrew because we see her through the eyes of Kevin Spacey and thus uses an annoying tone of voice the entire time. A mature course of action would be to draw Annette aside and explain that he was very unhappy with his life and in his marriage, and two options they could explore might be temporary or long-term separation, or mediated couples therapy. But no, he decided to BE MANLY, up the ante and bully around his daughter and his wife with the threat of physical violence. THAT IS NOT OKAY.
Re: tl;dr
(Anonymous) 2011-10-13 04:04 pm (UTC)(link)Re: tl;dr