You also assume that everyone responds to trauma and abuse in the same way. When I was fourteen and furious at the world for my mother's death, struggling with not only all of the teenaged angst but also all the things that came along with her death, no one who didn't know me would know what I was going through or how strongly it affected me.

There is no absolute way to define how every single person will react to and act after experiencing trauma. One person may break down and cry, another may stand up and push those feelings down, another may ignore them so completely they do not even know they are there.