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fandomsecrets2011-11-12 03:40 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-11-12 03:40 pm
[ SECRET POST #1775 ]
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Notes:
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(Anonymous) 2011-11-12 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
It's not a black and white thing where you have no privacy at all or else no right to know about what your partner is up to.
Listen. I've known couples where the guy turned out to be not-okay with fandom or porn writing. And then the person had to choose between her hobby and her man. In one case, I know she chose the hobby, in the other case, I didn't know the woman well enough to find out the end of the story.
The OP does not want to get married and then find out that her hobby is a no-go area for her S.O. Even if he never reads what she writes or asks her another detail about fandom, he needs to know it's important to her.
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(Anonymous) 2011-11-13 11:37 am (UTC)(link)I liked your point that when or if he happens to ask what she's doing, she'll have a choice between lying and telling the truth. At that point, it'll be a matter of her trusting him.
Fandom can be difficult for some people to get their minds around if they've heard nothing about it or only the stereotypes, but if OP is concerned with him judging her negatively about participating, I'd hope she'd trust the man she wants to marry enough to talk him out of any possible misconceptions he may have.
Anyway, I just wanted to say I think you've been responding very rationally and reasonably in spite of the meaner-spirited comments thrown at you.