fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #1801 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1801 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Venture Brothers]

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[Batman]

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[It's Not My fault I'm Not Popular]

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[Ray Force]

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[The Future I Whisper to You/Stargate Atlantis]

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[Terry Pratchett's Going Postal]

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[Code Geass]

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[Gokusen]

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[Code Geass]

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[Alison Brie/How I Met Your Mother]

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[The Vampire Diaries]

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[Final Fantasy X]

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[Supernatural]

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[Community]

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[Martin Solveig]

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[Clocktower series]

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[Winnie the Pooh]

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[Supernatural]

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[Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers]

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[The Sing-Off]

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[Oglaf]

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[Strangers with Candy]

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[Supernatural]

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[The Lion King]

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[S-CRY-ed]

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[Bones]

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[Fate/Zero]

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[A Christmas Carol]

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[Sequential Art]

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[ZUN/Jun'ya Ota]

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[Diablo 2]

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[Friends]

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[Winter Soldier #1]

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[Supernatural, Florence + the Machine]

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[Victorious]

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[Easy A]

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[The Vampire Diaries]

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[The Vampire Diaries]

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[Holly Black, Spiderwick Chronicles]

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[Monkey Island]

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[The Vampire Diaries]

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[Kurokami/Black God]

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[Eden of the East]

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Notes:

Rec meme on Saturday, then!

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 050 secrets from Secret Submission Post #257.
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The OP is entitled to her pain, her confusion, and any other feelings she might have. What she is not entitled to is the repeated use of mysoginist hyperbole in expressing those feelings.
Unless, say, she were speaking to a licensed therapist who coud help her to deconstruct her language and the emotions attatched to it. Then, free pass. The kicker is that not one of the commenters being "helpful" in the threads above a licensed therapist. If there were one present on this forum, I'm sure he or she would refrain from reckless and irresponible Internet diagnoses.

What the OP is feeling is not normal in any sense. She needs help. She should talk. But she should not feel free to state her revulsion at the sheer horror of the vuvla over and over again in a society that countenances labiaplasty as an option for women with "unsightly" , albeit perfectly normal and functioning genitalia.

oh fucking hell, are you seriously doing this?

Suggesting that she seek professional help in lieu of the reinforcement she's receiving here that her phobia of her own genitalia is normal because EW YES THEY ARE ALL GROSS?

Yes, I am.

Shaming women for their genitals is certainly not okay, and it needs to stop, but I think you're reading too much into the op's words. You can't ask op to be 100% aware of the effects and insinuations her words have when it is obvious that her perception of herself is already messed up.

Shaming HER won't help her, and it won't help women. You're only reassuring her that she is a bad person, that she should be ashamed, and that might scare her away from seeking a solution. Yay.

A more effective tactic would have been to tell her that, no, her genitals are not monstrous, that that is not a normal perception to have and to please seek help, ya know, like pretty much everyone else in the thread was doing?

Also, people up-thread are pretty much telling op to talk to someone. That doesn't mean that op can't go do some research on her own first, anyway. Getting professional help and trying to help yourself do not need to be mutually exclusive. No one was playing "I am totes a professional!" here. They were just pointing op in a direction that might help, since, given her secret and her comments, it does not appear that she have words to describe what she might have beyond "this bothers me and makes me feel sick. I don't like it".

Giving her terms to do some research might help her search out those, and maybe find that "oh, hey, this is what I feel like!"

Knowing that you are not crazy, that you are not the only one ever going through this, is reassuring and might give her the confidence to go find a professional to talk to. It will also help her know if the professional she finds is full or shit or if they have a better idea of what is going on with her and how to help her.

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