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fandomsecrets2011-12-22 07:42 pm
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(Anonymous) 2011-12-23 01:53 am (UTC)(link)I'm in that position too. At this point I'm pretty certain I'm attracted to women also, but I've never actually had a relationship with a woman though I'm not very young. (I know I wouldn't need to have a relationship to know, but I'm still not sure, so...)
Mostly people tell me I don't need a label, which is fair because I guess I don't but it is so bad that I want to know and not just speculate?
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(Anonymous) 2011-12-23 02:39 am (UTC)(link)I know there are a lot of people who know their sexuality without having had a relationship, but I honestly think having a relationship would help me figure it out, in my case (but I'd feel so unfair dating someone when I knew I wasn't sure. Gah).
Mostly people tell me I don't need a label, which is fair because I guess I don't but it is so bad that I want to know and not just speculate?
I get that all the time, and I know that yeah, it's not actually all that important in the grands scheme of things, but IDK. I'm the type of person who likes to have herself all figured out, I guess. I'd be fine not labelling myself as long as I knew precisely what I wasn't labelling. xD
Honestly, I gone through about a million different labels for myself. I've pondered just about every label I've come across other than 'entirely gay / homosexual' (at least I know one thing?). Heteroflexible, bisexual, bicurious, I've actually pondered asexual (although I'm now certain I'm not. Demisexual maybe though), Kinsey 0.5, Kinsey 0.1, Kinsey 0.05, heterosexual. *hands* At the moment I'm leaning towards calling myself a biromantic heterosexual. And maybe the romantic orientation vs sexual orientation thing is what's been tripping me up. But I'm not certain.
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(Anonymous) 2011-12-23 03:17 am (UTC)(link)but I'd feel so unfair dating someone when I knew I wasn't sure. Gah
Yeah, so much this. I wouldn't tell someone I was anything I'm not, and some people might be open to that, but many of those people might just want a sexual experiment type situation which is not something I could really get into. I mean, I might not like it just because I felt uncomfortable so it really wouldn't help.
For a while I kind of thought I might be a lesbian because my sexual experiences with men have been pretty bad. (That wasn't the only reason or that would be stupid, but that and the fact that I reacted strongly to visuals of women made me wonder.)
But lately I've developed this really huge crush on a male celebrity. Which doesn't prove anything either, but, without dispensing TMI, it's enough to convince me I could sexually respond to a guy. (Even one that, er, wasn't him. XD)
For now I'm saying "bisexual" because I'm really pretty sure I could be with a woman, and in fact I have one friend that if I could meet her in real life I think I could go for. (I wouldn't say I'm "in love" with her but that's mostly because I don't talk to her often enough to do that.)
Sorry for the long comment. I just don't get much chance to discuss it without people smiling and saying "You don't need a label, honey." Which isn't an evil thing to say but doesn't help.