[ SECRET POST #1830 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1830 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Masterchef Australia]


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03.
[Grimm]


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04.
[Cracked.com]


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05.
[Stargate Universe]


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06.
[Skulduggery Pleasant]


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07.
[Young Justice]


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08.
[Chobits]


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09.
[Sailor Moon, Howard Stern]


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10.
[The Wonder Years/How I Met Your Mother]


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11.
[Community]


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12.
[Homestuck]


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13.
[Nutcracker, Motion Picture]


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14.
[David Archuleta]


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15.
[Love Actually]


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17.
[itskingsleybitch]


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18. [repeat]


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19.
[FFVII]


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20.
[Shake it Up/Bones]


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21.
[Sherlock Series 1]


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22.
[Pokemon]


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23. [repeat]


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24.
[Hatoful Boyfriend]


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25.
[Wonder Woman]


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26.
[James Deen]


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27.
[The Iron Giant]


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28.
[Code Geass]


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29.
[Code Geass]


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30.
[Code Geass]


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31.
[Code Geass]


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32. [SPOILERS for Dead Rising 2: Off The Record]



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33. [SPOILERS for Skyrim]



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34. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]



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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for mentions of rape]



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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]



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37. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]



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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #261.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you, I respect your comment very much and I don't think we're actually in disagreement; I should have clarified that I don't think what OP did was right, I merely thought it was very understandable given the circumstances and not something they should guilt themselves over. I was responding to insanenoodleguy's comment that "her friend would be justified in not being her friend anymore" which IMO is both totally wrong and extremely unhelpful. No, a survivor doesn't have a get-out-of-jail-free card to maliciously hurt those around them, but I don't think the OP believes that ( why would they make this secret if they did?). I do, however, think that a good friend would not take OP's actions as malicious, even if they were hurtful. I think a good friend would forgive OP readily and help her move forward as best she can.

I admit I'm not a rape survivor, but I have been through trauma to the point of severe depression, and the constant guilt I felt for the way I treated my friends only made my relationship with those friends worse. It wasn't until I admitted to myself that a) the hurt I'd done them was actually negligible compared to what I was feeling and b) the hurt those friends had done me (by accident!) was real, and my anger against them was justified, that I could start to heal our relationships. A year on, I still feel angry about what I went through, but those people who made it worse (again, by accident!) are now my best friends. I'm in a much better place because I stopped blaming myself for everything and just accepted that both of us did wrong but neither of us deserve to be punished. Ultimately my advice remains my opinion, so I'm not pretending to speak for rape survivors or know what's best for individual situations. It just sounds to me like the last thing OP needs right now is people (not you, but other people in this thread) telling her she's done something terrible and her friend should be running for the hills.

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

It just sounds to me like the last thing OP needs right now is people (not you, but other people in this thread) telling her she's done something terrible and her friend should be running for the hills.

There are not enough Word Pies in the world to bake you right now.

[(Anonymous)]

I appreciate that a lot :)

I don't know if OP is reading this, but if you are, I want to reiterate: look after yourself first, because you are the one most in need of looking after. If you're still worried about your friend, I promise you'll find it easier to take care of her if you put your emotional health first. Remember that you didn't create this situation and it isn't your fault.