[ SECRET POST #1834 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1834 ⌋


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Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 3 4 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeats ]
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Uh, as far as I was able to understand, the OP only checked it to see if the person was online or not. I'm curious about how exactly one 'creeps' all over one page versus going on it 'oh he/she's active' and leaving again. Maybe I didn't read it all, because I don't think the OP actually made a comment on the person's LJ/whatever?

Again, it's not that I disagree with you. I don't either agree nor disagree because I /cannot comprehend/ how simply checking someone's page for activeness makes them a creepy.

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

The creeping part for me is searching the person out at all, period. x_lostinthesun was not a friend of the person they messaged, or someone who should expect a response; they'd never met. Searching and mapping out a complete stranger's online presence (through multiple avenues, not just LJ) just because they didn't answer a PM from you seems...disturbingly obsessive. It'd be like a cold-calling telemarketer showing up at your house to see if you're really not home because they kept getting your voicemail.

[pendingprogress.livejournal.com]

Hm, I disagree with this, purely I think because of the level of effort needed to be put in in the two cases. It wouldn't take that long to check even several sites to see what someone was doing (possibly under a minute if they're all easily inter-linked, which is true for a lot of people's fandoms presences), whereas it'd involve a physical journey of anything from a few minutes to over an hour for a telemarketer to go visit your house. However, if the OP of that rant kept checking the sites say a few times an hour, over several weeks, then I think that'd class as obsessive. But to check just a couple times over a few days, not really. I dunno, I think of obsession in the way of 'how much of my time is this taking up'?

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

It strikes me as obsessive because the person is expending effort, period, to monitor the online activity of a complete stranger. It takes far less of your time to just...accept you're not getting an answer.

If the person isn't active online anymore, you're out of luck. If they are still active, then they're ignoring you for a reason. What's the point of poking around their online spaces if both scenarios lead you to a dead end?

[pendingprogress.livejournal.com]

I think we're just using very different definitions of obsessive, then. 'Cause for me like I said, it's more about 'how of my my time is this taking'? I don't see expending any effort at all into something which isn't important as obsessive...or even a problem. I mean, if you're curious about how come you didn't get an answer and you know there is a relatively easy way to possibly satisfy some of that curiosity, why not use it, instead of trying to just stop being curious? It would be harder for me to 'just accept it' if I was thinking about it than it would be to make a few clicks. But then I guess the obsession depends on yeah, are they thinking constantly about why they didn't get an answer from the moment they sent the PM up till they made the ffr post, or have they just remembered every few days, "Hey, I still didn't get an answer about that translation..."

If I don't get any knowledge from the check because the person isn't active any more, then I've done what I can easily do, so I'm still curious about exactly what happened but the thought of, "I could potentially find out," isn't still bugging me. If they're not at all online then I can figure it's probably not just about me, so that worry's gone anyway. And if they are still active, then I know. I wouldn't go looking because I thought it would let me know why they were ignoring me, but to find out if it was them ignoring me, if you see what I mean? Also they could possibly have put a post up saying, "Sorry, RL shit going down, hiatus time," or something like that.

I am thinking about this way too much but I can't stop now, so.

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[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

I guess we are. But then I find any effort at all to to find out why a complete stranger never responded to an e-mail creepy because as I said further upthread, I've been stalked, online-to-offline, for exactly that reason.