[ SECRET POST #1841 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1841 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, and all you people who are saying she's using him or whatever? No. She didn't say, "ZOMG he's nice but he's SO ANNOYING and I want to leave him but I need him to buy me a Chevrolet first. But as soon as he gives it to me I'll dump him for his hot brother, lol!" She said her fiance is a douche, but she CAN'T leave. CAN'T. It's not her fault. HE is the one who is (consciously or not) feeding off her financial dependency and thinking it means he can treat her however he wants. He's the one taking advantage of her.

And no, I may not know this particular person, but I know his type.

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

Yes, thank you. That's part of the control aspect. If she did find a job, I'm willing to bet my tax return that his douchebag behavior would escalate (maybe not to physical violence, but he'd become even more emotionally abusive) because any perceived independence on her part is considered a threat. Even his attitude toward the comics isn't about the comics; it's about her having an interest of her own that is different from what he thinks she should be into.

[megalomaniageek.livejournal.com]

Yes exactly. I've been particularly up in arms about this in this thread because I know a woman who's in a horrible marriage (he has a history of physical violence against her, he cheats on her constantly, and when they get in fights over it he terrifies their two children saying he's going to leave and never come back), but she is completely financially dependent on him. If she could, she would get a job and divorce him, but she doesn't really have much in the way of marketable skills and she has two children to take care of (and I'm pretty sure she's the only one who can be trusted to make sure they're taken care of if the split happens), one of whom has a mental disability. It would be very hard on her to be a single mother, but if she could actually make it happen she would. But instead she stays in this marriage because it's the best way for her to survive right now.
The fact is that relationships in which there is some form of financial dependency cannot just be seen as simple romantic relationships that can be broken off at the slightest unhappiness. They're financial arrangements and it's childish to think otherwise. When you bring shared living spaces and shared bank accounts into it (even if you're not married, and doubly so if you are) then it becomes a complicated legal situation too.

People in abusive relationships who are being financially supported by their partner do have the right to make a feasible exit plan for themselves and not just walk out immediately if it's not what's best for their survival. It's not using the partner.

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

Not to mention that in many of these relationships, any attempt by the victim to become independent will very often result in escalated abuse, because the partner feels threatened that their control is slipping.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, that's horrible. I hope your friend and her kids are safe and can get away as soon as possible.

"The fact is that relationships in which there is some form of financial dependency cannot just be seen as simple romantic relationships that can be broken off at the slightest unhappiness."

This so much.