ext_203063 ([identity profile] andromeda3116.livejournal.com) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets 2012-01-26 01:10 am (UTC)

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say that you, perhaps, simply worded yourself poorly. That said, I do agree with some elements of this -- it is horribly annoying and really just horrible when people claim to have a mental disorder because they think it's cool and edgy. It's probably my only IRL berserk button, when someone says something like "Oh, I'm so OCD, I just have to have everything organized" or -- heaven help me -- "I'm Bipolar, can't you tell? I'm so moody!" Not only is it ignorant as all hell, but it cheapens the issues that real mental patients have to contend with. The fact that there even is such an animal as "Ass Burgers" is case in point of this; there's a certain kind of person who reads about a disorder on Wikipedia or hears about it through popcultural osmosis and thinks "hey, I'm maladjusted/moody/sad sometimes for no reason/awkward around people, that means that I'm autistic/bipolar/depressed" and take it upon themselves to make that diagnosis and start using it as an excuse.

Here's the bare bones of it, from my experience -- a real, genuine mental patient? Will not use it as an excuse to act however they want to. There are exceptions, of course -- being a mental patient does not necessarily mean that you aren't also a drama queen/king -- but for the most part, people who actually suffer from an actual psychiatric disorder spend most of their time and effort trying not to be defined by it, and in most cases won't even bring it up in public unless there's a good reason. To use broad strokes, most mental patients don't want the sympathy they'd get from broadcasting their issues across places that have nothing to do with said issues.

So, yes, there are plenty of people who claim to have issues because they think it gives them a free pass to act however they want to and/or because they think it makes them cool and different and edgy, and yes, that is infuriating as all hell because real mental disorders are often extremely debilitating, and to see some idiot who has never suffered from any serious neuroses claim that they're sooooo autistic or sooooo bipolar or sooooo OCD... it's frustrating, but more than that, it's depressing. Because if you're a mental patient, chances are, you'd kill to be normal, to be rid of your disorder. It's like being taunted with something you can never have by someone who can never understand what they're doing to you. It's agonizing.

All of this said, however, you worded this secret poorly as all fuck and if you sincerely mean it and it wasn't just a bad turn of phrase, then you can kindly go fuck yourself.

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