Are fake Aspies/Aspies who avoid responsibility really that common that everyone has to tack that on when discussing mostly-decent people with real problems? Really?

Sadly, yes it is. I have yet to meet even one self-professed Aspie online who didn't resort to playing their diagnosis (real or not) to shuck responsibility when called out on their shit. It's a trendy disease right now, thanks to doctors over-diagnosing it to please parents who should never have bred in the first place.