[ SECRET POST #1852 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1852 ⌋


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Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 3 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeats ]
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Comments

[meadowphoenix]

I think you're missing the point. It's not that making a choice is inherently feminist. It's that criticizing a choice a woman makes and saying that they should have made a different choice (in order to not fail womankind or whatever) is paternalistic and therefore inherently anti-feminist.

I'm sure you see instantly how ridiculous either of these phrases are: "It's shameful how women still wear make-up" or "A real woman wouldn't be caught dead without make-up." Especially when these sentiments are devoid of any thought for individual desires or are made to be a judgement on someone's standing as a woman.

[sandor051.livejournal.com]

Paternalistic doesn't necessarily imply anti-feminist, just look at the conflict between western feminism, and post-colonial branches of feminism. It'd be reductive to suggest otherwise.

And whilst talking of what a 'real' woman should do is as you say a ridiculous conception, I would suggest that one could make an argument (that I'll note here I'd explicitly disagree with) along the lines of say 'engaging in behaviours to draw the male gaze and contributing to this patriarchal element of culture in regards to personal grooming is an unfeminist action, and you should stop it' that would be reasonably defensible.

One can have all the personal desires they want, but they don't get to pretend they occur in a vacuum.

[meadowphoenix]

You're right in that I should have made it clear that I was talking about the western feminist movement* (also it's doubtful OP's incident occurred in a 3rd world setting), but that still leaves paternalism as at the very most a rebuttable presumption of anti-feminism.

I agree that such a sentiment would be reasonably defensible all the way up to "and you should stop it." There is a very big difference between demanding that people understand the context of their actions (the lack of a vacuum as you say) and demanding that they act against those desires because of an irrational notion of harm. Why should they stop? I don't actually think the latter is reasonably defensible. I was being a bit reductive, but only because I think there is a very real tension between sexual freedom and feminism that complicates even issues such as make-up, and I don't think in this instance it was productive to go there.

*I should also say that I think that post-colonial feminism, especially at it extreme edges is something that is only realistic in an academic or theoretical setting, since it ignores most neurological realities in order to rationalize it's justifiable anger at minorities being ignored, so ironically I usually ignore it.