[ SECRET POST #1866 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1866 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

i think the expression you're looking for is "internalized homophobia"

[(Anonymous)]

Um, no..... as another anon who identifies this way, that's not it at all. I wish I were just "gay," since that's more how I think of myself than straight, but unfortunately things are not so simple. If you are only attracted to women but only romantically interested in men, it doesn't make you homophobic. It just means you have a frustrating sexuality.

[(Anonymous)]

no, it means you should look into your issues with how you think relationships should be/how you want other people to view your relationships.

splitting attraction into romantic and sexual is completely fucking ridiculous for the purposes of anything other than, maybe, asexuality.

[(Anonymous)]

love =/= sex

[(Anonymous)]

Just because you're so simple minded that you can't even fathom attraction and love not meshing together 100% doesn't mean the concept isn't valid.

[(Anonymous)]

lolololololol

yes, i'm simple minded and your ~frustrating sexuality~ has absolutely nothing to do with how you were/are being told by the world around you that what you should want is a husband and two children and a white picket fence.

[intrigueing.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you can take your condescending, sexist assumptions and jump off a cliff straight into hell. People like you need to learn to shut their mouths until they get a clue.

Also, I'm offended at your idea that wanting a husband and two kids and a white picket fence is inherently wrong.

[cleverthylacine]

I didn't get from that comment that it was inherently wrong to want a husband, kids and a white picket fence, but rather that it's inherently wrong to insist that everyone must really want that, or they're lying to themselves.

[(Anonymous)]

Are you saying people see no difference between romantic and sexual attraction? I'm kind of blinking here and not understanding how you can even think that.

What do you think a one-night stand is for? You can find someone hot without wanting to have a meaningful relationship with them.

[(Anonymous)]

oh no, i completely agree re: finding someone hot without wanting to have a meaningful relationship. however, when you start making labels out of it and leading to bullshit like "heteroromantic homosexual", that's taking the whole thing way too far for the sake of special snowflakery. if the gender/sex you want to date is not at all the gender/sex you want to fuck, that's issues, not xromantic ysexuality.

[(Anonymous)]

Labels for things have to start somewhere

Would you insist bisexual people just call themselves "straight and gay at the same time" because words exist for that already instead of having a word of their own?

Or is bisexual okay because you're used to it and everything more complicated can get off your lawn, you can't be assed to keep track?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

if the gender/sex you want to date is not at all the gender/sex you want to fuck, that's issues

Homosexuality was also classified as issues for a long time. All you are doing here is pointing out that OP is not in line with what society at large considers normal, which I'm pret. sure OP has figured out.

I don't understand your irritation here with labels. They're descriptive words that state a much more complex idea concisely. OP stated what the words meant before using them anyways, so it's not like she's acting enlightened and thumbing her nose at you for not knowing what they mean.

[(Anonymous)]

Oops, not before, but in the same comment. The meaning of the words were clear, anyways.

[cleverthylacine]

Why are you so sure that this has to do with wanting people to think stuff about you?

Why can't it be that someone gets sexually hot from the idea of doing it with one gender, but tends to enjoy the company of the other gender more?

[(Anonymous)]

to me, If you are only romantically intererst to someone, you aren't hetero/homo romantic, you just want a profound friendship.
Do you know friendship can be as/ more powerfull than love?
Now go ahead and tell me apart!

[(Anonymous)]

I'm guessing they're talking about the kind of love that creates butterflies in your stomach.

I love my friends deeply, but they don't make me swoon. The feelings of love come in different shapes and sizes, but in my case I recognize what makes them "friends". And then there are people who make my heart race and my head spin but who don't excite me sexually, and vice versa. I don't like labels myself, but they can be helpful for someone else.

I'm sorry, but I find it silly how you have the need to dictate how other people view their relationships and how they should think.
Yes, friendship can be more powerful than a love interest, and sometimes friendship is the same thing as love itself, but I'm guessing that's not the issue OP is trying to figure out.

[(Anonymous)]

LOL where do you get off telling me that my relationship with my significant other is only friendship? I think the people who decide whether something is romantic or not is us in this case, and we say romantic. You can cry and rage and froth about it, nonnie.