[ SECRET POST #1890 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1890 ⌋


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 05 pages, 108 secrets from Secret Submission Post #270.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 - repeats ]
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Comments

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The "only one answer" thing. I don't think that's true, and I've seen loads of disagreements and things respectfully hashed out within the SJ community. However, some answers are just blatantly unhelpful, and get responded to like, have you even read the 101, why are we having this discussion now. They don't further discussion, they shut it down. An example of this sort of thing would be saying an -ism doesn't even exist. If you can't agree on that, nothing useful can happen, so lern 2 SJ or GTFO. This just keeps the discussion moving and evolving, instead of retreading the same tired territory with a new crop of people who aren't actually interested in learning anything each week.

Something like "bitch" being a bad word...I consider myself a feminist, and I use the word "bitch." But there's a difference between using it among friends who know who I am and understand my usage of it, and just using it out there on the internet where anyone can read it.

...and okay, I'll be honest, I think this pearl-clutching over profanity and censoring words is a bit silly. I like the idea of making us think about what words we use and what they mean and where they come from, because it's a way of challenging unconscious, invisible ways of thought that we take for granted. But it reaches a point where it seems like it becomes about the words instead of using the words as tools to get at the thoughts behind them. And words, on their own, become meaningless.

"Bitch" is a sexist word. So's "cunt," when applied to a person. But usually when I hear either of those words, it's because I'm standing up for myself to a sexist man. So I've come to have a certain amount of pride about them. I'm a bitch and a cunt. But when I'm on tumblr and see a female character in a TV show I'm enjoying described in this short post: [female character's name] = cunt. That is all," (this is an actual post, sadly) yyyyeah I'm going to call sexism.

Context is like, a thing. Some feminists think there's a context in which these words can be reclaimed. Some don't. See? Disagreement!

I think intent does matter a lot. Of course it does! Try being an unapologetic racist/sexist/everythingist in a SJ community, and you'll see how much intent matters.

But I think one of the most frustrating things about privilege is how closely it's tied to ignorance. My partner and I have even been defining privilege as not having to know. Being white is never needing to think about race. Being a cisgendered man is never needing to think about gender. It's not just stepping on people's toes. It's your entire group having a dance move that steps on people's toes every other step, and only after years of toe-crushing, going, "Oh my gosh! Was I stepping on people? I had no idea!" The people with the crushed toes are not very inclined to be sympathetic at this point.