[ SECRET POST #1892 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1892 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[How I Met Your Mother]


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03.
[White Collar]


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04.
[Smash]


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05.
[How I Met Your Mother]


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06.
[Revenge]


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07.
[The Hunger Games]


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08.
[Yu-Gi-Oh]


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09.
[White Collar]


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10.
[Obscurus Lupa, Subspecies]


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11.
[Castleville]


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12.
[Gintama]


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13.
[The Cat Returns]


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14.
[Mythbusters]


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15.
[Invasion of the Body Snatchers]


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[Titanic]


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[All Dogs go to Heaven]


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18.
[Hatoful Boyfriend]


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19.
[Pokemon]


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20.
[Phantom of the Opera]


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21.
[The Middle]


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22.
[life on mars]


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23.
[Scrubs]


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24.
[A Goofy Movie]


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25.
[Nerimon/Alex Day]


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26.
[Katie McGrath]


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27.
[Chuck]


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28.
[Top Chef Season 9]


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29.
[The Vampire Diaries]


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30.
[The Vampire Diaries]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 045 secrets from Secret Submission Post #270.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

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[ibroketuesday.livejournal.com]

I'm aware that social pressures exist and influence women's values and perceptions, and I'm not claiming I'm immune to that process. I actually agree with everything you just said until your last sentence. Where we differ is here: I think it's a dick move to attack individual women for this. For example, let's create a hypothetical woman who plans to wait until marriage to have sex. She has made this decision because she was raised to think it's the right thing to do and because she's uncomfortable with the idea of having sex in any relationship that isn't 100% committed.

Now, it's perfectly fair to take society to task for all the forces and currents and influences that encourage women to take this road. I'll be with you the entire way as you examine the historical context of women as property, marriage as transaction and virginity as mark of ownership; I'll nod along as you talk about the double standards where men are high-fived for sexual conquest but women are sluts; I'll agree that demonizing and stigmatizing women for having sex outside of socially approved unions is horrible and sexist, and that all of these forces probably helped create the sexual identity of this woman who's waiting until marriage. But the moment you go up to that woman and say, "Hey! Are you sure this is what you want? Have you really examined why you want this? Don't you know this is because of sexism? Carefully consider your choices!" that's when you have become a jerk. That's her comfort level, bro! Leave her alone! If she feels so inclined, maybe she will realize that she really only made that choice because she has sexual hangups because of her upbringing. Or maybe not. Either way, you have to keep your nose out of it. Criticize society all you want, please; but back off from the private lives people live within that society. That's their business and no one else's.

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[(Anonymous)]

And I think it's equally fair to take individuals to task for making decisions that conform to harmful standards. You can't attack society as a whole without attacking individuals, because society is kind of made of them.

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[ibroketuesday.livejournal.com]

You can and should attack what people do and say to other people. You should criticize parents who teach their daughters harmful things about sex, judges who dismiss rape cases because of what the victim was wearing, bosses that only promote men, etc etc. You should not attack individual women whose personhood was formed in a sexist society. Who cares if they'd be different people and want different things in a perfectly equal utopia? You're still attacking their personhood.

ETA: To clarify: you shouldn't attack individual women for what they want, what they feel comfortable with in their own lives, etc. If they're doing something that perpetuates harm, like calling other women sluts for leading looser sexual lives, then that's a negative attitude about others that should be dissected and criticized. However, it's still possible to think it's okay for other women to be promiscuous without being comfortable being promiscuous yourself. Fin!

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[(Anonymous)]

I would respectfully disagree with that. You can still think someone is making the wrong choice, but still accept and promote their right to do it, even when it effects others.

I think creationism is bunk, so bunk. However, I don't think that people can't teach their children creationism. I'd say that as a society, yes, children must learn about evolution, put it on tests, etc., but I don't think it's right to say that people could not teach creationism to their children at home.

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[ibroketuesday.livejournal.com]

Okay, yeah, I mostly agree with you. I would not stop the private teaching of creationism, although I also think it's bunk. I do think we as a society should attempt to stop the dissemination of beliefs that are actively harmful: like the idea that gay people are lesser human beings. You can measure the impact of that in teen suicides and partners barred from their dying loved one's hospital bed.

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[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. The problem is where one person's rights end and another's begins and that's hard to define.

With the partners thing, it's very clear. You are infringing on a loved one's right to be with someone who's dying. Whether you think it's wrong to be gay in the first place doesn't make that right. With the teen suicides, they're horrible, but I don't know where the line is. My guess is that it's more on the bullying side, but I honestly don't know.

I guess, for me personally, it's wrong to treat people differently, for reasons that don't effect you or the situation. For example, if you have the promiscuous woman in the office 99.9% of the time that should change nothing. If she dresses in a way that goes against the company message, talks about personal things that are forbidden to speak about across the board, or something like that, it is addressable only in the way that effects the company. However, you don't have to be friends with her outside of work if you don't like the way she leads her life, even if ideally it would just effect how you set her up with people (where it is directly applicable).

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[(Anonymous)]

No, that makes you an asshole who assumes that any woman who chooses something that society recommends isn't a real person capable of making real choices.

Firstly - there will be many where society wasn't what tipped the scale. You criticizing their decisions for nothing makes you an asshole.

Secondly - even if they are the ones where society did tip the scale, how dare they choose to take the road of less resistance? Not every woman has choose something that sticks to to the man. In particular, they don't have to choose to stick it to the man with every single choice they make.