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[ SECRET POST #1900 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1900 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Rap Critic]

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[Hanna is Not a Boy's Name]

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[Ricky Gervais]

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[Upstairs, Downstairs]

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[Alex Trebek]

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[Quantic Dreams / Playstation 3 tech]

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[misfits]

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[Pretty in Pink]

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[Castleville]

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[The Vampire Diaries]

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31. [SPOILERS for Death Note]

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32. [SPOILERS for Supernatural]

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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse]

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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

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[House MD]

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38. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

[spartacus]

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39. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse]

[Unrelated]

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[House MD]

I can barely read this.

I can almost read all of this, but it gets really hard to decipher once the blue text gets on House's suit

does anyone have a translation?

I was raped about two weeks ago.

It was the most boring sex I've ever had.

It felt almost casual as I handed him a condom from my purse with a gun held up to my head. I don't (didn't?) feel traumatized at all.

I feel angry that I was forced into (made to have?) sex against my will, yes. But it feels more like the annoyance one would experience when (?) (????) keeps bringing up a (?????) that you tried once and disliked immensely.

Only when I watched this episode and saw how she reacted did I realize that feeling like I do isn't right, but I don't feel like I need to seek help. I probably won't, and I feel a little sad knowing this about myself now.

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(Anonymous) - 2012-03-17 00:08 (UTC) - Expand

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faeiri.livejournal.com - 2012-03-17 00:16 (UTC) - Expand

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kikkyo.livejournal.com - 2012-03-17 02:38 (UTC) - Expand

I'm assuming you just wanted to get that off your chest, because we can't read it. So... hope it helped you?

I can kind of see where you're coming from. I've developed a string of mental illnesses, depression, bulimia, etc. I have suicidal thoughts all the time, I cut and can barely get out of bed some days. But I wouldn't say that I suffer from it. I guess this disconnection is some kind of phenomenon too, but I just don't really feel bad about it. I rarely cry, and when I do, it's about sad movie scenes or books. When I go to confession blogs, I see all those people actually suffering, crying, wanting to change, and I'm just completely "eh, whatever" about it. It feels a bit wrong, like maybe I'm not actually ill and pretend to be to myself. It can be a little confusing sometimes.

I'm glad that you got away, OP. If you don't seek help, will you still report the crime?

I'm the same way.

I'm pretty much the same way at the moment. Sucks to be us, eh?

I reacted the same way, anon. The whole thing pissed me off, but I wasn't traumatized by it. Over ten years later and I haven't had a delayed reaction and my current day relationships are healthy. I suspect everyone reacts in their own way.

I realize that feeling like I do isn't right

Is there a "right" way to feel? About anything? If it didn't traumatize you, it just didn't. And if something happens and you feel like you need help in the future, you can still get it. It's not like there's a time limit on these things.

I'm not sure if I deciphered this secret correctly, but... you are not obligated to feel traumatized. You and you alone gets to decide how you feel.

if you aren't traumatized by it, don't go out of your way to force yourself to be. people react to being raped in a lot of different ways, and I don't think any of them can be decided as the "right way". use the fact that you aren't traumatized to your advantage and move on.

There's no "right" or "wrong" way to react to being raped. If you truly aren't that traumatized by it, good for you, you're unbelievably lucky, don't beat yourself up over it. If you're just repressing or something, just deal with the emotions as as they come, when they come. It's all up to you.

Only somewhat related, but what episode is this? The actress in the screencap looks vaguely familiar but it's bugging me I can't place her.

She played Hannah (Booth's annoying girlfriend) on Bones.

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yume-aria.livejournal.com - 2012-03-17 02:26 (UTC) - Expand

you don't have to feel any which way. i have a friend who was raped and she utterly didn't care at all (or so it would seem). just because rape is something that traumatizes many people, doesn't necessarily mean it will traumatize everyone to whom it happens. trauma is personal, and can be predictable or bizarre.

I *think* I can relate to this in some way, anon. I was kidnapped by knife point when I was in college and I had to jump out of a car when it was going at speed to get away. I wasn't raped, though.

Anyway, it sounds hard core, but I was (and still am) mostly just annoyed about the whole thing. There are entire years that go by where I don't think about it. I see people on the internet falling apart for being groped out of nowhere, or whatever, and I... wonder what's wrong with me?

So my point is of my ramble is that there isn't a *bad* way to react to things. Considering what happened to you, it's probably a blessing.

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(Anonymous) - 2012-03-17 02:58 (UTC) - Expand

All I can say is I'm sorry that you were assaulted, but good for you that it didn't fuck you up as badly as it would have someone else...? Also no offense but please make a text box or something next time, this is hardly legible.

You feel how you feel, OP, and you're not wrong or weird for it. I'm glad you're taking it well. You may still benefit from seeking help but don't feel like you're a freak just because it didn't affect you the way it affects many others.

There's no right or wrong way to react, so don't think you're doing it "wrong" because you don't respond like a character on a TV show (who was probably written by someone who has never been raped, at that.)

I hope you reported it, though, so the bastard who did it doesn't get too many more chances to go after other people who might react differently. And don't forget to get checked for STDs, even with the condom.

Wow, I was beginning to think I was the only one in the world that was not traumatized by my rape. I lost my virginity to a rapist when I was eighteen, but aside from being royally irritated (mainly at myself for putting myself in a place that allowed it to happen) it was never that big a deal. He was just a jerk with a penis. I could never understand why I was supposed to flip out over it. I would have been a thousand times more upset if he had broken into my apartment and stolen something.

(Also, this was a long time ago for me, so no worries that it will fester and turn you into a non-functional person down the line. I'm the most well-adjusted and happy person I know. No lie. It never affected any of my relationships down the line. Feel what you feel, babe, and don't think there is a right or wrong way to deal with it.)

Don't let yourself believe that there's anything wrong with you for the way you reacted. People respond to traumatic events in so many different ways, there's no 'right' way to react to it. It's good that you're holding up well for now, and don't be afraid to seek help if you need it in the future but don't beat yourself up over how you're feeling now. You've been through a lot.

When I was 11 or 12 an uncle put his hand down my top. I knew that was a bad thing at the time and immediately got out of his reach and gave him the stink eye, then I never went near him again right up till the day he died, but I never felt violated or "dirty" or any of the other reactions I hear about. I keep waiting for that repressed trauma to surface, but I don't think it ever will.

You may want to consider some therapy just to make sure you're not just blocking it away only to have it explode on you out of the blue, but don't feel like you're wrong to not have a reaction. Individual experiences are individual.

hey, there is no right or wrong way to react to something like this. There's a more common way, but different people and different experiences and different mindsets are different. If you don't feel like you need to seek help, then you obviously don't have to (you're a better judge of how you're getting past things than anyone else would be), but you should probably talk to someone about it (a friend, a relative, ya know) and should definitely report it. But there's nothing WRONG in that reaction. It's fairly common, too. Not the majority but it's out there enough to be recognizable.

Just echoing what everyone else has said - you react the way you react. My SO was raped as a teen and I was initially surprised at how unfazed he was about it. But actually now I think its the better option for him considering everything he's been through. I think of it as abuse, he sees it as shit that happened. I'm quite glad for him that he is untraumatised, everyone deals in their own way.

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