[ SECRET POST #1946 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1946 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 092 secrets from Secret Submission Post #278.
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Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

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[fenm.livejournal.com]

You could ask her. Unless you like the mystery, I guess.

[amethyst-rei.livejournal.com]

Heh, that's interesting. When I was much, much younger I used to do something similar. If someone really, really bothered me (and never for petty things-- when I was kid there was very little that upset me) I'd write a story about them where something bad happened to them. Even if I didn't use the person's name, the character I'd create would be a carbon copy. It was how I vented and coped. For instance, I remember in the 3rd grade this boy used to tease me mercilessly. Used to poke me and throw things at me and mess up my hair-- the works. Anyway, one day he threw a dodge ball at me really freaking hard and I fell and hurt myself pretty badly, and the first thing I did when I got home was write a story about "him" (I think I named him something else-- don't remember) falling down a cliff. Or was it off a roof? He fell and died, let's leave it at that.

So yeah, I think it's only natural for people who like to write to express themselves through writing. I wouldn't be surprised if your GF was doing just that, OP. Anyway, it doesn't hurt to ask.

[megalomaniageek.livejournal.com]

If it's unintentional, I wouldn't worry about it, but if it's intentional that seems kind of...I don't know, like she should be working it out with you rather than going away and writing her own narrative of the disagreement, especially if she's posting it for everybody else to see. Thing is there are some hard things I've gone through that I've found it helpful to work through via fictional pretending, but circumstances matter; I find it's a way to help re-contextualize the issue or watch a person you admire go through it and come out okay, or it can be a way to write a happy ending on a situation that really had a sad ending. But I find that when it comes to personal arguments it's best to keep things in the realm of reality, and between the people involved.
Also it's important that I'm working from the standpoint of "every time we have an argument, it's reflected in a new fic." If this happened once or twice it'd be different; I'd see that more as your SO pulling details of a relationship from real life rather than working through problems.

[(Anonymous)]

Can't tell if you have a problem with this, or are just observing.

Frankly I don't think it's a bad way to work through your emotions. It's much healthier than taking it out on you or on other people. And maybe she's able to turn something negative into something creative?

[trekkiesara.livejournal.com]

It's not a bad way to work through your shit. I've been writing fic where one of the characters is pregnant because I can't get pregnant myself. It helps me and doesn't hurt anyone. My husband doesn't read my fic, but he knows what I'm writing about b/c we talk about it.

[avocado-love.livejournal.com]

I hate when people do that. It creeps me the hell out. I've had some friends who have fic reflect RL fights with lovers/family members and I don't know if it's intentional or just passive aggressive, but... aklsdjfladjfakldjfaljdfladjfladjflasjfdlasdjflaksjdf I can't back away fast enough.

Sorry, this pinged on a pet peeve of mine.

[drunken-clowns.livejournal.com]

As long as you're actually communicating and stuff, it's not a bad way to work through your problems. Maybe projecting the situation onto characters gives her the distance from it being about herself! and her girlfriend or boyfriend! in order to look at it rationally. Taking some distance before you start talking about it can prevent the yelling and stuff.

If you're uncomfortable with fic about your problems being on the internet for everyone to see, maybe you could talk to her about whether this gets posted? If this is what she's doing, though, it's probably helpful for her.

[dinerstate.livejournal.com]

Huh. This is a pretty interesting secret, to me, because I'm in sort of the opposite boat-- my ex (and RP partner) just left for boot camp a few weeks ago so I've been reading some old chatlogs and a lot of the things that happened between this one couple of ours turned out to be oddly similar to our situation, to the point where my ex was saying a lot of the same things when we were breakup-fighting. It doesn't really help that this character was kind of like a self-insert for him, and ironically enough the couple isn't together any more, but it's really weird, reading all of these things and kind of seeing where they came from. I don't really know how to feel about it.

I think perhaps your girlfriend may be using fic as a way to work through things, and maybe figure them out, without trying to confront you or start another argument. It seems like a pretty creative coping mechanism. Does she know you read her fic? You could try talking to her about it, maybe.

[(Anonymous)]

It might be less "working through it" and more "ooo, that was so totally how characters X and Y would fight about Z. ...I should go write."

It's only a problem if she stars picking fights because she needs inspiration for writing...

[htebazytook.livejournal.com]

the answer is yes