[ SECRET POST #1963 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1963 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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17. [TRIGGER WARNING for suicide]

[Oblivion]


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18. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

[Spartacus: Blood and Sand]


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19. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse/rape? I think. better safe anyway]

[Rihanna, Man Down]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think what you are saying is very true, it's like learning to accept compliments. If someone says your dress is lovely, it's too easy to say "this old thing?" or whatever. I've had to learn to just say thanks when someone says something nice. However if I say I think I look terrible, or feel fat and ugly, and the people around me handwave it, or say they think I look fine, or whatever, it doesn't remove those thoughts from my head, because I think they are humouring me. Problem with that stuff is that IRL we do that all the time, we may actually think IDK, that the trousers the person is wearing really are too tight, but when ask we say "Oh no they look great! " so it doesn't help.

This is why the answer is no to base your self esteem on what others think. I'm about a million miles from achieving that but I know it's true in theory. We should be able to accept criticism and compliments. If someone is rude or unfair in criticising us, then we need to be able to discount it, just as if they are obsequious for whatever reason we should know that's wrong. (It's the flip side really but I've seen it so often in the work place, screwed up junior staff flattering their managers with all sorts of nonsense, and I guess it goes for the hangers on with celebs as well. If the people they were flattering were truly secure they would see it for what it is. )

I think I'm whittering here but like you it's something I feel strongly about, as someone who plays exactly the same game of putting myself down all the time, almost obsessively.

By the way, the bit where you say how if you keep putting yourself down your friends get sick of it, I've been there, and what then happens is your thoughts become "I'm such a bad person that even all my friends are sick of me", It's a downward spiral no matter how you look at it.