[ SECRET POST #2010 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2010 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Panic! at the Disco/One Direction]


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03.
[Mad Men]


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04.
[My Princess]


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05.
[Questionable Content]


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06.
[NCIS]


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07.
[Okami]


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08.
[la brigade chimérique]


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09.
[Ally McBeal]


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10.
[SS Omega]


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11.
[Final Fantasy XIII]


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12.
[A Song of Ice and Fire]


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13.
[Heroes]


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14.
[Salma Hayek and Cote De Pablo]


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15.
[True Love, "Holly's Class"]


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16.
[Star Trek TNG]


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17.
[Final Fantasy VII Crisis Core]


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18.
[Katawa Shoujo]


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19.
[US Women's Gymnastics]


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20.
[Legend of Korra]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 042 secrets from Secret Submission Post #287.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 2 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

OP, I've been reading this and am sorry you're having such a rough time. I've never (that I know of) met anyone from a culture like yours, and the glimpse of another world is intensely interesting. Honestly, I'd guess that some of the rabid curiosity of people like myself is coming from a certain kind of envy; a lot of us seem to feel as if we'd like to be something other than what our culture wants and expects us to be, and the notion that this might be possible is tantalizing, and somehow scary, too.

What I am wondering -- and I hope you'll forgive my utter ignorance here, and the fact that you must get asked this, like, every single day -- is, what is the place of a college education in your culture? What I mean is, in my world the idea is that you're supposed to get a good job, settle down, buy a house, have a "stable career" (if there's even such a thing anymore) and all the trappings of what our culture deems to be "success."

It seems clear from your posts that your family values education and that your achievements will have the same kind of responsible-person connotation, but as you're traveling, I don't suppose that settling into a conventional career will be an option. So I'm curious as to what your culture's expectations are. Just to be clear, I am not implying that there's no reason for someone from your culture to get a college education. I'm just the product of a very standard-issue way of looking at college and the benefits thereof, and interested in thinking a little differently.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, it sort of depends on what's needed, if you choose to go to college. A lot of people who go to school among my family are mostly going for trade, unless they learn it from an older person. I can't speak for other families.

Some go for education, so they can teach our kids, or focus in a subject that could be taught. Most of my family isn't college educated though, they're tradesmen. Three of my aunts make jewelry, they apprenticed in that. One of my uncles is an electrician, and he was teaching some of my cousins that. A lot of them do construction too.

For us, it's more about being a functioning whole. We need to be able to keep moving, and bring in money, and take care of ourselves. So becoming a paramedic, or a nurse, that's important. Knowing how to teach. Having a trade that can make money.

We just don't really think like outsiders. Home is the family, not a specific place. "Settling down" isn't really a thing. You get married, you have children, but you're still part of the family, and you still contribute.

Oh, no, normally people ask much ruder questions. "Do you have an arranged marriage?" is a common one.

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you so much. I ... the arranged marriage thing wouldn't even have occurred to me, so I'm kind of boggling about that.

Is it difficult to get work in skilled trades if you're moving around a lot? I'm in something of a skilled trade myself, and it's taken me four years in my new home city to put down enough roots to have anything like a reliable client base, because people tend to distrust newcomers. I can really see it being a challenge, in the midst of this wider culture that equates "good, reliable work" with "has been in business in the same spot for X number of years."

I'd imagine that the internet (Craigslist, Etsy, etc.) make it significantly easier to find work or sell your work while not having a permanent address. I can definitely see why you'd have a wi-fi connection. And the idea that home is your family rather than a spot on the map? Makes perfect sense to me.

I hope you get to go home soon, and thank you again.

[(Anonymous)]

I think people watch too much television, is my only way of rationalizing it.

I don't know how difficult it is. I guess because we know people, my family members get in on jobs with locals. I'm not really involved in that, since I never learned one of the trades. But they never seemed to have a problem.

I know everyone who does jewelry and art works through the Internet now. Etsy is brilliant, really, practically a godsend.

Thank you for trying to understand. Most people just make the "But..." face.