[ SECRET POST #2018 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2018 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Dragon Age: Origins]


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03.
[Buffy the Vampire Slayer/Mark Watches]


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04.
[KingKiller Chronicle]


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05.
[Ben-to]


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06.
[The Binding of Isaac]


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07.
[Fantastic Four]


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08.
[Dragon Age 2; Team Fortress 2]


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09.
[Highlander: The Series]


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10.
[Kristen Stewart and Charlize Theron]


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11.
[X-Men: First Class]


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12.
[Doctor Who]


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13.
[Sly Cooper/Ratchet & Clank]


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14.
[Avengers]


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15.
[Jay Smooth]


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16.
[Avengers, James Bond]


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17.
[Brokeback Mountain]


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18.
[X-Men movies]


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19.
[The Dark Knight]


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20.
[Star Wars]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 022 secrets from Secret Submission Post #288.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[thene]

I get it, I really do. Possessiveness and temper have attractive upsides - life feels definite and you feel wanted, and if you've any history witnessing domestic conflict it can just seem familiar and justifiable, and the unpredictability itself can be exciting and fun - a real emotional rollercoaster. But not being able to keep the reins on a violent temper is definitively crazy. It IS going to get unsafe for you and the other people you care about - this person could turn on your friends or do things to separate you from your friends and family. (My father once burned things that my mother had been given by her father). It's unlikely that they'll ever prioritise your needs, especially if those needs include freedom, independence and social contact.

I see a lot of people saying 'LEAVE NOW' and while that sounds like a great idea to me, I figure it may just not chime with your current feelings at all? So how about you just look at the situation hard, consider taking a break & going to stay with a friend or relative for a while (partly just to see how he reacts - leaving can demonstrate how dangerous a situation really is), and to have an escape plan in place always in case you decide you need to take it. Ask a supportive friend if they'd be ready for you to come stay with them for a while, have the number of a shelter in your phone, keep a few things packed in case you need to grab them and go. Make leaving and moving on

You might want to go to survivors if you want to talk to people about witnessing violence and having a partner who scares you sometimes. Please don't feel like there's any line that has to be crossed before you ask for support or call an abuse hotline - fear of violence is legit a form of abuse and it's FAR better to leave before anything happens than after, and people in the abuse support community can be very validating, caring and supportive. Just about everyone has had that worry about whether or not they can call it abuse. If you want to ask for support, just do it, don't worry about what the situation is called or whether you are 'supposed' to leave or what you are 'supposed' to feel - just vent, it's always okay.