[ SECRET POST #2023 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2023 ⌋

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Comments

Re: friendship troubles...

[veronica_rich]

Unless the OP has learned mind control to make the friend say what she wants when she wants her to bring it up, either way, I was under the impression the question was "what can I as the OP do in this situation?" and answered accordingly.

Re: friendship troubles...

[cassandraoftroy]

Maybe this isn't how you intended it, but it sounded more like you were telling the OP that she was unreasonable for expecting her friend to talk to her honestly -- either about the topic itself, or about the fact that the friend didn't want to discuss it. The problem isn't "pushing for openness"; it's the friend thinking it's okay to completely blow off the OP when she doesn't like where the conversation turns.

What can the OP do in the situation? I think ze can tell the friend, "Look, if you don't want to discuss certain topics, just tell me and I'll respect that, but it hurts when you just completely ignore me when you don't like the subject of the conversation." No mind control necessary.

Re: friendship troubles...

[veronica_rich]

Well, it's certainly better than passive-aggressively hinting at the woman she wants to pin her down on an opinion, I will say that.

Re: friendship troubles...

[cassandraoftroy]

You're definitely reading more into the OP's post than I did. I didn't see any passive-aggressive hinting or trying to pin down an opinion from the friend. I just saw someone distressed that any time the conversations with her friend organically take a turn toward something the friend (presumably) doesn't like/disagrees with/is uncomfortable talking about, she ignores OP, disappears for days, and pretends the entire exchange didn't happen. That's kind of crappy, and if I were the OP, I'd be distressed by being treated that way by someone I considered a friend as well.