[ SECRET POST #2037 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2037 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Naaaah

[(Anonymous)]

da. If somebody doesn't want to dress-up, make-up and pay too much attention to looking attractive then that's entirely their own business and nobody should hassle them about it. However, they should accept that not putting an effort into their appearance will probably substantially reduce the number of people who will be physically attracted to them and thus interested in pursuing a romantic attachment (though if they're specifically looking for somebody who doesn't care about looks at all then this would be a logical filtering strategy to adopt).

Re: Naaaah

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I feel that you're saying a much more fair thing than the prescriptive "here is what you should do to look attractive" comments above, and that's cool. I agree that a refusal to adopt conventional beauty standards will probably decrease the dating pool, and that's something that anybody who wants to actively date should take into consideration, whether they decide to actually do it or not.

But OP never said how much effort she puts into her appearance, only that she thinks she isn't conventionally attractive, so the original response of "lose some weight and put some makeup on" was seriously gross.

Re: Naaaah

[(Anonymous)]

Men don't put make-up on, why should I?

Re: Naaaah

[(Anonymous)]

some men actually DO wear makeup tho? also, not doing sth solely on the basis that men, or any random group of ppl, don't do it is kinda a dumb reason not to do it yourself. Don't feel like you HAVE to do it obviously, it's totally a matter of personal choice, but refusing to do sth on grounds that "XXX doesn't do itttt!" sounds exactly like a little kid going "but Jimmy's mom doesn't make HIM eat broccoli, why should I have to?"

Re: Naaaah

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, I would say that the fact that our expectations of men make a perfectly valid comparison point. Do we insist on men painting their faces in order to make themselves 'attractive'? No. So why apply the same standard to women?

Re: Naaaah

[(Anonymous)]

Some men with facial disfigurement wear make-up - most don't bother, though. There are those men who use it for professional reasons, but not all the time. Outside of that, the number of men who wear make-up is such a small fraction it's ridiculous to compare.

Also, stop the presses: nobody is supposed to expose and refuse to follow social inequalities concerning the way women versus men are treated, because that would be the same as a childish "XXX doesn't do itttt!" whine? How funny of you. But NO.