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fandomsecrets2012-08-06 06:35 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #2043 ⌋
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Re: Nervous About Moving In To An Apartment
DO:
1. put together a roommate agreement. your housing office likely has a form available that you can get from your ra or the main office. agree on quiet/study hours (even if your building has a general policy, you might find that you or one of your rommates is a very early riser, or that someone plays saxophone and is used to practicing from 2-4 pm everyday in their room), make a cleaning schedule (see 2), follow up and amend the contract as necessary (see 3). decide on how much notice you need for house guests, how people feel about people's boy/girlfriends staying the night, whether or not your common areas are pants or shirts optional. (i had one roommate that wandered around in bra and underwear most mornings until she showered and got dressed for class, no matter guests or open windows.) if you have ANY concerns, now is the best time to bring them up. let your roommates know that you are petrified of snakes and will jump at menacing coils of rope or if you have any medical issues, especially if they're the kind that might mean they might need to know where your meds are/who to call if you faint/why you really do NOT have the energy to go to class or wash your dishes that day. your roommates are neither mind readers nor sherlock holmes! =]
2. make a cleaning schedule for the shared areas. mopping, vaccuuming, wiping out the sink/microwave, dusting, etc. it doesn't have to be every week, but it should be regular and it should be in a rotation. put the roster on the fridge and initial it when you've done yours. don't be afraid to bring it up if someone's been slacking. and try not to slack yourself! it really sucks to have traded cleaning assignments and be stuck with all the suite cleaning the weekend before midterms. =T
3. have suite meetings, maybe once a month or so. order a pizza, go over how X leaves her bras drying in the shower and then forgets about them for a week, and how Z still puts steak knives sharp-side-up in the drainboard or how Q and her boyfriend get it on on the couch all the time when there is a perfectly serviceable bed behind the door ten feet away. bring up that you're going home for a week at thanksgiving so no one worries when you disappear sunday afternoon and never return, or that you have a HUGE project coming up and that you'll be awake at odd hours or camping out at the union for the next while. you'll likely have some sort of ra or support from the campus housing department, and don't be afraid to ask them to attend if things are getting out of control. they are trained for conflict management!
4. separate kitchen storage. we found it best to give each person a shelf in the pantry, a section of the fridge, and an open shelf and a drawer for dishes/silverware/appliance storage. (we did a similar divvying up of storage space in the bathrooms.) you don't touch, think about touching, or otherwise encroach upon anything in another person's section without explicit permission, come hell or high water!
5. if you decide to share some groceries (i strongly recommend buying your own food, though!), have one person pay at the store, and then tally up the expenses for each person to pay back in cash. excel comes in handy! you might find later that just estimating works, especially if you always split a gallon of milk, a costco pack of toilet paper, and a bag of pecan halves the exact same way. but start off being precise. you can even offer to take the reciept and do the adding up for your other roommates if they don't seem inclined to break it down properly themselves.
DON'T:
1. get involved in yelling matches. it just doesn't work. if you or the other person are too upset to talk reasonably, just grab your key and step out. you can walk around the building, go see what's new at the library or the student union or anything. you still have to live with this person for a few weeks or months, so try not to get in a position where someone will say or do things that they regret. that said, you don't have to put up with someone being an absolute ass, either. you can ask your other roommates about it, or go to your ra or the housing office. or to fandom secrets! i'm sure that we'd love to hear about and give advice on some roommate drama. =]
2. do the things that tick YOU off. like, if walking over other people's shoes in the middle of the room is annoying, don't leave your shoes -- or notebooks or papers, etc -- lying around. or if you dislike finding other people's stubble or makeup residue in the bathroom sink, make sure you rinse it out yourself when you're done. don't give anyone room to call you a hypocrite! =D
3. let being in a new place with new people intimidate you out of doing things you like entirely. a vegan roommate can deal with your tuna melts the night before an exam, and you're allowed to comandeer the couch and tv and watch nothing but kiki's delivery service on repeat when you have the flu.
that said, i loved the time that i spent with my roommates on campus, and i'm still good friends with most of them (and i'm actually moving into an apartment off campus with two of them this term after a year apart). since it took me several hours to wrap this up, i see that you already know your roomies-to-be, which should make the whole thing a LOT easier! i'm forever an optimist (and mostly lucky), but i'd second the advice from the other folks in the thread to keep an eye on your valuables and not leave things strewn about the common area. even if you trust your roommates, you may not trust all their friends. i hope this helps, and i really hope that you have a great year in your new place! =]
Re: Nervous About Moving In To An Apartment
Re: Nervous About Moving In To An Apartment