[ SECRET POST #2044 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2044 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge/Perfect Girl Evolution]


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[Suits]


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[A Song of Ice and Fire]


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[Yamato nadeshiko Shichi Henge]


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[Sherlock BBC]


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[Homestuck]


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[Sherlock]


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[Stargate Atlantis]


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[Cyborg 009]


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[The Amazing Spiderman]


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[Stargate Universe]


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[Avatar: the Last Airbender]


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[Bunheads/Game of Thrones]


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[thesyndicateproject (youtube)]


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[Codex Alera]


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[Wishbone]


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[The Game OverThinker]


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[K-ON!]


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[Magical Diary]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I didn't see the movie so I don't know exactly what you're wishing for, but there's nothing about high school that makes love more special. I know it might seem like you really missed out when other people wax poetic about their young loves. They're probably just looking with rose-colored glasses on a time when being in a relationship had fewer weighty responsibilities - like kids and legally binding marriages - attached to it. The vast majority of couples I know (including my 90-something grandparents and others of their generation) didn't even meet until after high school, so clearly high school romance isn't the be all and end all.

[cashay]

For me personally that's exactly what I'm missing right now. I just want to be stupidly in love without having to think about the future or how him/her moving to another city will work or possible kids or moving in together. Or even the whole "well, when should we have sex thing."

Nothing against sex but recently I found myself wanting to take it slower and most people I've been out with in the last year or two have always tried to initiate more than just a few kisses after just one or two dates. I guess I just want feeling the whole butterfly in your stomach thing without so much damn thought attached xD Most of the time in high school it wasn't really serious (of course there are exceptions) and now it suddenly is and at the moment that's just totally not what I need xD

OP here

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, that's what I want too.

I am in a relationship actually. But it seems we've gotten serious/in-a-rut and I just want that careless in-love feeling.

[(Anonymous)]

Thing is, part of what makes high school love special is the fact that there are no kids and no marriages. It's love without responsibility; it's fiery and passionate and, by its very nature, fleeting, and the fact that it's fleeting makes it that much more fantastic.

[(Anonymous)]

But why is having that to look back on preferable? And why is on God's green Earth is fleeting a good thing? I don't see the benefit of being jealous of your past self. I'd think it would be better to either prefer what you have now or at least be able to live in hope of having something great in the future.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not jealousy; it's fond remembrance. It's possible to be happy with the current state of one's relationship, or one's life, while also being glad that one experienced something akin to "abandon" in one's youth.

I'm never again going to do a keg stand. I have no desire to do one at this age. But I'm glad for the experience of having done a couple in college. For a better example: my first love was reckless and unrealistic and immature, and even if I weren't happily married, I wouldn't want something like it now. But the memory of it is precious, and I'm glad that I have that to look back on.

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I don't see the benefit of being jealous of your past self.

This. Whenever I am hit by a bang of nostalgia like no other, I tell myself two things:

1.) I am probably not looking at the big picture. That yes, there were times in my life that were wonderful but to only focus on the great (and not necessarily the bad) is unrealistic.

2.) Nobody says I can out-do the happiness I feel now versus the feeling I had then when I was younger. I can out-do old me in terms of acceptance and self-satisfaction. I can be a better version! That is what I'm doing now. Improving my life so that later, I can look at this experience I'm living now with fondness, too.

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[(Anonymous)]

"They're probably just looking with rose-colored glasses on a time when being in a relationship had fewer weighty responsibilities - like kids and legally binding marriages - attached to it"

I think this might be part of it for me, too. I feel like pretty much all of my relationships have been too "serious" to my liking, I suppose.
I sort of wish I could have gotten the non-weighty thing out of my system, or have experienced it. I just sort of want someone to have fun with and have adventures with and be silly-stupid with butterflies in my stomach.
But it seems the older you get, the harder it is to find that.
I've managed to dodge the kids and marriage thing - but there's still a lot of "old farts" in my dating pool, at least mentality wise.