..But that doesn't mean that Anon or Sansa are somehow weak or that their response was incorrect. I grew up in an abusive environment as well, and I spent basically my entire childhood from ages 8-14 saying so little that my stepbrother, who I lived with for 5+ years, did not hear me speak to him directly until I was 14. I actively avoided saying anything even remotely inflammatory (though the abuse was rarely instigated by anything logical anyway), and to this day I oscillate in the extreme between either completely shutting down internally and psychologically when asked about myself, or being so aggressively rebellious against the way I was conditioned as a child that I will BEAT people verbally with my opinion instead of just offering it. I'm glad that you found a way to rebel and survive with your sense of self intact, but other people in similar situations do not respond the same way that you do, and it does not mean that we are weak, or that the way you did it was the right way and the way we did it was the wrong or cowardly way. I don't think Anon is trying to say that his/her experience was everybody's experience: just trying to provide a possible explanation for Sansa's reaction. Which was just as valid as yours, and mine.