Hey F!S. I... have a problem. I have friends who are girls--but they're friends I made when I was much, much younger (middle school or earlier) and have kept. I have no recent girl friends and for some reason girls don't seem to keen on me.
I've been really lonely since I started college since I hadn't been able to make any new friends. I just transferred this year and suddenly I'm getting a fair amount of attention from guys who want to hang out with me presumably only to hit on me. At first I think "oh good, I've made a friend maybe! Finally!" But then they keep hitting on me even after I try to be politely dismissive. The problem is... even though I have a boyfriend (long distance), I'm so fucking lonely that I don't tell anyone I have a boyfriend simply because I'm really afraid I'll lose their company and be all alone again. I feel like a horrible person... I'm sure the cat will come out of the bag at some point, but I'm hoping that by that point they'll have decided they like me as a person/as a friend, and they don't care enough that I have a boyfriend that they'll stop hanging out with me. I certainly don't encourage their flirting or flirt back, and I would never cheat on my boyfriend, but I feel like such a fucking loser that this is the only way I can make "friends." I just feel so pathetic. Am I still leading them on if I try to turn down their flirts? Am I being a bad girlfriend by not telling them about my boyfriend?
Friends, "friendzoning," boyfriend problems
I've been really lonely since I started college since I hadn't been able to make any new friends. I just transferred this year and suddenly I'm getting a fair amount of attention from guys who want to hang out with me presumably only to hit on me. At first I think "oh good, I've made a friend maybe! Finally!" But then they keep hitting on me even after I try to be politely dismissive. The problem is... even though I have a boyfriend (long distance), I'm so fucking lonely that I don't tell anyone I have a boyfriend simply because I'm really afraid I'll lose their company and be all alone again. I feel like a horrible person... I'm sure the cat will come out of the bag at some point, but I'm hoping that by that point they'll have decided they like me as a person/as a friend, and they don't care enough that I have a boyfriend that they'll stop hanging out with me. I certainly don't encourage their flirting or flirt back, and I would never cheat on my boyfriend, but I feel like such a fucking loser that this is the only way I can make "friends." I just feel so pathetic. Am I still leading them on if I try to turn down their flirts? Am I being a bad girlfriend by not telling them about my boyfriend?