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fandomsecrets2012-10-08 06:30 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-10-08 06:30 pm
[ SECRET POST #2106 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2106 ⌋
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Re: /is being used
I do agree with that. Her not realizing what she's doing doesn't make it okay, it just makes me feel slightly worse for thinking of ways to cut ties with her. However, I don't think anything I did caused her to react like this, even if I have trouble coming to terms with the guilt of 'abandoning' her. This is a very personal issue though, as I'd suggest anyone else to do what you say and not feel guilty for it. Then again, it's always easier to talk about these things than it is to actually do them.
I hope it worked out for you, whatever you decided? You sound like you've got it all figured out, so I wouldn't be surprised. :)
In the long run, I think you'll feel better for it.
I believe so too. I know I would still feel occasional guilt over it (warranted or not), but day to day...things would be so much easier.
not gonna say thanks again because people will start thinking I'm a broken record*hugs* ♥
Re: /is being used
And as I said before, this kind of thing is really never easy. My situation was messy as hell! I made a lot of mistakes in handling it. I wasn't calm, I didn't break away as clean as possible, and I let them make me feel like an awful person. It's been a couple of years now and I'm honestly better off without that person in my life, but when I think about it I get embarrassed!
Still, when I look back on it I can only really think about what I could've done better. I've gotten older now and I've learned and seen a lot of things since then, and with all that experience, I feel like if I went back and did it again, things would be very different!
That's really where I come from when I give advice. When you've always bumped your knee on that one corner of the coffee table, it makes sense to warn people about it, right?
Good luck with it, really. :) Hey, you never know - maybe your friend will get her act together! Just providing you're happy with the result!
Re: /is being used
:/ Again, it's easy to say you're going to do something than to actually follow through with it. When you're in the moment and hurting, you tend to be nervous and confused and not really sure what to do even if you think you've already made a decision about it; it's easy to doubt yourself. This shit's difficult, man. Mistakes happen, especially in a situation like this, but the important thing is that you went through with it and stuck by your decision and are a happier person today for it. That's something to be glad for and proud of imo, even if it didn't go perfectly. What does, honestly?
When you've always bumped your knee on that one corner of the coffee table, it makes sense to warn people about it, right?
Indeed it does. :) And I really, really hope she does too. If not with me, with her other friends, and everyone she'll meet in the future.