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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-10-12 06:43 pm

[ SECRET POST #2110 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2110 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Teen Wolf]


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03. [WARNING for rape/child abuse]



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04.
[Lady Gaga]


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06. http://i48.tinypic.com/a14a4p.png
[contains possibly self-harm triggery images of scars; text isn't about self-harm, though]


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07.
[CSI:NY]


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08.
[Teen Wolf]


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09.
[Skins]


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10.
[Mary McDonnell and David Strathairn]


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11.
[No. 6]


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12.
[Glee]


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13. [SPOILERS for Warehouse 13]



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14. [SPOILERS for Joker Blogs]
http://i47.tinypic.com/2hecxnt.gif
[image possibly triggery; character with gun in mouth]


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15. [SPOILERS for Doctor Who]



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16. [SPOILERS for Pitch Perfect]



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17. [SPOILERS for Marvel Comics (Avengers vs. X-Men)]



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18. [SPOILERS for Avengers vs. X-Men]



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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ---- ]

















19. [WARNING for rape]



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20. [WARNING for rape]



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21. [WARNING for suicide]



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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #301.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

(Anonymous) 2012-10-15 03:16 pm (UTC)(link)
Took me a while to get to this, and I saw it by pure chance. Most of the secrets, lately, have been making me yawn and question why I spend the time trying to read them. I have kink meme fills to do, after all.

But yes, I guess you just picked a day when most of the people like me didn't read? Something like that. I know exactly why you keep this a secret. You're the only one who can sort out whether this fantasy is intense fun, or the mental equivalent of self-harm. Be nice to yourself, OP. I don't know anything about your sexual background, or whether you've been abused in other ways, but it's common for fantasies to keep the stuff that you haven't sorted through yet. And it's also common to have a few wires crossed, around what "want" and "don't want" should mean, in terms of what the other person actually does, depending on how much your boundaries were(n't) respected, as a kid. I don't think I have to tell you that we underage non-con fans have to have a higher standard than the rest of fandom, when it comes to acting like responsible, trustworthy adults in real space. Not because we're likely to hurt anyone (most of us would never) but because this is prickly, isolating head-space to be in, and the less it gets shared around, the better. I've never seen shame do anybody any favors, when it comes to sexual fantasy. As far as I can tell, most people wouldn't have the triggers and kinks they have, if it were possible to just criticize them into oblivion. That doesn't work. So ... if you want advice, my advice would be to accept you're feeling this, and when you're not pressed for time and not likely to be interrupted, ask your body where it's coming from. If you get an answer on the first try, great. Put a lock on your inner critic for a while, and just listen. If you don't, keep asking.

This won't get rid of your kink. But it may help with the "oh, god, what does this say about me?" because understanding is preferable to that diffuse, jumping-at-shadows dread. Human fears are usually waaay out-of-proportion to the truth. And even if they aren't, you need to know the truth. That's the only way I know of, to figure out what needs to be done. You might be a monster? Yes. It's not very likely, but yes, that's possible. It's also face-able. And what defines you in the world's eyes is what you *do* ... not what you imagine while fapping.