[ SECRET POST #2114 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2114 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Punishing kids (trigger warning)

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe it's just because I have a developmental disability, but corporal punishment was pretty much unpredictable to me. There seemed to be rules, but they never explained them in a way that I could understand or how the 'bad' things were different from similar-to-me things that weren't punished. And because I didn't have a real sense at that point of what was and wasn't 'bad', I had no way to make the hitting stop happening.

If anything, being hit in anger was easier for me to predict and avoid. At least with that I could read their mood and just give them time and space until they cooled down. And when they did hit, they were always sorry afterwards. The parent who did the corporal punishment, the one whose hitting was the most random and frighting to me, they felt no guilt at all, no matter how afraid of them I was.

Re: Punishing kids (trigger warning)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry you had bad experiences with corporal punishment. It doesn't matter if you have a developmental disability or not, the rules should be crystal clear. The punishment should happen because the rule was broken delibrately or because it was forgotten, not because the rule wasn't understood.

This reminds me of a story. A family moved to a new house and the father asked his young son to help him get rid of pebbles in their law. The son said he couldn't do it. The father asked again and the son still refused. The father became upset and the son started crying. Finally, the father asked why his son couldn't help him pick out pebbles in their law and the son answered, "because they're rocks!"

Good communications is important. Undestanding is important. Corporal punishment should never be random and frightening. I'm sorry your family did not make sure you understood the rules.