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...Man, it kinda makes me sad how many few examples of this I can think of. There needs to be more happy adoption stories in the media...

I wish this too but I've found when talking with people there still seems to be this... barrier in thinking about adopted children. For example, a lot of the time when people find out I'm adopted they immediately ask if I've met my "real" parents. As if the people who raised me are "fakes". Then when I say I don't care to their next question is almost always why, as if the thought of me not wanting to meet a random stranger is a ludicrous decision.

*Shrug* Wikipedia has this to say about it.

So... I'm not really surprised.

OP here: Man, do I *hate* that reaction (which was part of why I was curious if the opposite existed anywhere in fiction) My parents are awesome people, and the fact that we don't share DNA has nothing to do with anything.

At least most of my friends who've found out lately have just been "Wait, your adopted?!?!" and then just asked if I knew anything about my birth parents, and were just "oh, okay" when I said no.

Exactly. I just don't understand how what vagina I came out of has any effect on the bond with my parents. I don't understand how DNA has anything to do with who walked me to my first day of school, who took care of me when I was sick, who taught me right from wrong. It doesn't and it never will. I don't even understand how people can be confused by it because when non-adopted people think of their own parents do their really think of the blood relation first? Do they really think of the shared DNA? Because holy crap that just sounds really depressing to me. Because the first thing I think of is the people who love me.

My friends are the same, pretty much exactly the same. It's nice when they don't make a whole bunch of assumptions about it.

Since you're adopted I have a question for you. Have you ever had people try to pressure you into meeting your birth parents? Like, seriously try to persuade you into doing it because you should, omg? I have and was wondering if it's a common thing.

But yeah, good luck with finding the representation you want in the media. If you find anything you really like, let me know. I'd probably want to try it out too.

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I'm not adopted, but I have a lot of step-family. My parents got divorced when I was only a toddler so I've basically known my step-parent and siblings my whole life.

Ugh, you don't know how many time I've had rude people say stuff like, "but they're not your REAL brothers" or something like that. Hell, people say that to my boyfriend about his brothers, and they're just half-siblings! I can't believe there are people out there so obsessed with blood.

I hate anti-adoption morons (I can't believe such a movement exists) and their "it'll never be same as having REAL parents" bullshit. Um, yeah, do they not realize that plenty of kids' biological parents abuse the fucking shit out of them? And the media helps these stupid ideas about adoption if anything (and any step-family too, I've found).

/end-rant

I'm sorry anon. Now that you say that I can easily think of all the negative tropes about step-parents and step-siblings. Half-siblings too. It's really gross.

What makes me feel better is that the people I've encountered I've always felt came from a place of ignorance rather than true malice. But what you're saying totally crosses a line that I doubt ignorance can explain.

I'm sorry though. Here, to make you feel better:

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