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fandomsecrets2012-10-16 06:43 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-10-16 06:43 pm
[ SECRET POST #2114 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2114 ⌋
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Re: Happy adoption in media?
(Anonymous) 2012-10-17 10:29 am (UTC)(link)Although if you're less comfortable slipping into older Englishes, I could see it being hard work.
And yeah: happy adoption. But I would warn the OP not to assume anything about how they would react if they met their biological parents. Having a strong emotional reaction to seeing them wouldn't be any sort of negative comment on your parents who raised you, it wouldn't be a betrayal or indicate that you didn't love them, nor would it mean they failed in any way or that your bond with them was weaker.
All it would mean is that seeing people who are related to you for the first time can be emotional, that seeing people who gave you up can be emotional, that there are interesting things you'll have in common with blood relatives that you don't have in common with non-blood relatives who shaped your whole life, which is weird but not a bad thing.
I know someone who was adopted as a baby, who had no interest in her biological family until she gave birth. Seeing that baby, she realised this was the first person she had ever met who was a blood relative, and that suddenly seemed surprisingly deep and important. It also raised questions for her of how someone could give up their baby, now she had felt what she personally felt holding her baby. So she found her biological mother, and now she has decent contact with both her biological and adoptive family.
I'm not saying everyone is like this, or everyone is like that, I'm saying don't set yourself absolute rules for how you expect to behave and feel, and certainly don't link such unpredictable feelings to any sort of reflection on your relationship with your adoptive family.