... get over it. I have people I can't get along with, no matter what. I don't go around making secrets saying that "OMG THAT PERSON RUINED THIS CHARACTER FOR ME!" Mostly because, *gasp* I don't read their journal anymore. I've left them to their sandbox. Go to your corner of the sandbox and STFU. You can't get along with her, so stop saying things about her and move on. Don't like Van anymore because of her? Then get the hell out of the fandom and go to something else shiny. And don't pay attention to whether or not she's said anything about it. Go like it because you like it and stop bothering her. Waiting for what you deem to be a sincere apology? ... I'm about ready to say GTFO of my species. You won't get what you want unless you give her a script of what you want her to say, and then you'll bitch because she only read what you gave her and noooo it wasn't sincere. Get. Over. It. Move. On.

And if she's in another fandom you move into? Ignore her and play with your toys. I do that with the people I can't get along with anymore. So what if I've had a bloody fight with them and feel horribly betrayed? They didn't do anything to the fandom itself. Enjoy fandom and ignore the people you don't like.

Am I saying either of you were in the right or wrong? Nope. Just both of you should move on. Shit happened. You can't console your differences. Move on. It's not hard.