[ SECRET POST #2138 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2138 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
[Cabin in the Woods]


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02.
[Hanna Is Not A Boy's Name]


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03.
[Vampire Diaries]


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06.
[009 RE:CYBORG]


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07. [SPOILERS for Elementary]



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08. [SPOILERS for Supernatural]



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09. [SPOILERS for Journey Into Mystery 2011/Young Avengers 2012]



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10. [SPOILERS for Skyfall]



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11. [WARNING for abuse]

[Chris Brown / Jaejoong (JYJ)]


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12. [WARNING for incest]



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13. [WARNING for abuse]



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14. [WARNING for eating disorders]



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15. [WARNING for suicide]

[Edna and Harvey: Harvey's New Eyes]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #305.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

Re: How long do you date

[(Anonymous)]

By going out with them, you give them the impression that you actually are into them, at least a little bit.

If you have no interest in dating someone, then you shouldn't date them. What you've done is basically string people along and then get confused when they don't like it.

Re: How long do you date

[(Anonymous)]

How can I "give them that impression" when I literally tell them "I'm not really feeling it, but alright, I'll give you a shot if you want it so much" or something along those lines? They beg and plead and whine for the chance so much that it's far less irritating in the long run just to give in and go on a few dates.

Re: How long do you date

[herongale]

It sounds to me more that you are bad at being firm and sticking to your guns. I don't see why there is any value in rewarding bad behavior (begging, pleading, whining) with ANY chances, to be perfectly honest.

Instead of your current tactic, if someone is doing any of the above shit to you, why don't you strike a deal with them instead? Something like, "don't ask me out anymore, I really mean it, since I don't really have any interest in you... BUT, if you can manage to do that and treat me just like a friend for the next few weeks/few months/whenever, you can come back and ask me again (at the end of whatever that period of time was) and see if my feelings have changed. How does that sound?" That would not preclude actually going out and doing stuff with these jokers, it just wouldn't be called a date anymore, and therefore they wouldn't be deluding themselves into thinking that by going on dates that means you are their girlfriend (or boyfriend) and that you like them romantically. And MAYBE, just MAYBE, by acting less like guys "on a date" and more like "actual friends," they might have more chance at actually getting what they want over the long term, too... it's a lot more likely that you'll spark up an interest in someone you are currently friends with, than someone you are actively dating, if those romantic feelings are not already present.