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I very nearly wrote out this comment, deleted it, then saw some people discussing a fandom related version of it. So I figured maybe it's a good climate to bring it up.

I've never fallen "in love" in the conventional sense. If I had a sexual label, I guess it would be asexual, but since I really don't find the concept of sexuality to be a thing for me, I just use it for other people to get a fix on me.

I've never wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone, have babies, grow old. Have sex. The sort of love that is traditionally envisioned.

But I love, love, love so many people so deeply. Bare my soul to, give my life for, grateful just to be in the presence of kind of love. (In a weird, stupid way I love and want to protect everybody. Even strangers on the bus, children I see alone on the street. I have a protective instinct that is absurd.)

And I think the reason why I've never wanted to "find love" is because I reach emotional satiation because I love most everyone. And not because I'm a good person, or because I'm religiously compelled to. I mean, people piss me off too, but my natural state of things is to automatically be concerned and care about people I have no business in.

I just. Love everyone. And everything-- I have this love for animals that has gotten me scolded at by my parents. And it fills me up enough that I don't feel like I need any one exclusive partner to share that with. In some ways, I feel like I have to be alone so that I can recover from caring about everyone.

Is that stupid? I feel it's weird, or maybe pretentious sounding. I don't mean for it to be.

I'm just honestly curious, what would that be? Omniamory? Uniamory?

Maybe I'm in love with the world.

You might want to clarify your scold-worthy love for animals but I might just be saying this because we had a weird bestiality thread yesterday.

Honestly the only other people I've heard talk like this get called "high as fuck".

/really enjoyed reading your comment, sorry I can't help. I really intensely love humanity and get warm fuzzy feelings about helping and protecting my fellow man a lot but individual humans seem determined to shit all over that so....

Eta: I don't see anything wrong with preferring to be alone to recharge at the end of the day in a way that doesn't involve mental or emotional support from another person. Maybe you're like an extreme introvert?

Edited 2012-11-29 04:25 (UTC)

AHAHAHA oh god thank you for the laugh.

What I mean is that I establish deep emotional attachments to the animals I work with/live with, and when any of them die or get really sick, I get heartbroken and cry. Because they were my friends, and I loved them very much. Even though they were "just" cats/cows/whatever, we had a nice friendship, and I loved them for that.

My parents long ago hardened their hearts against that kind of stuff, and they get exasperated with me for loving barn cats as much as I do my house cats. Or the fuzzy raccoon babies, even though they grow up to be aggressive and destructive.

I hear you on the individual people being dicks. But chances are, unless they are a really nasty individual, I'll still probably love them in spite of hating them. And I've learned that I'll indiscriminately endanger myself to protect someone regardless of who it is.

I literally cannot stop myself from being concerned about people and helping them. I walked in front of fast moving cars to grab children from in front of them. On the bus I get out of my seat for children with their parents, old people, and nuns (lol, which got me a thank you.)

This makes me sound like a pretentious do gooder, so I'm going to stop here. D:

You just sound likd a good person. :D

I'd like to think I'm a good person if in a slightly nutty, crunchy outer shell. I like doing nice things for people but only if they don't find out. Like I get belligerent and outright lie if confronted on doing something good. But I'm generally as polite as the situation calks for, if a bit reserved. I'm an undercover softie IRL. I like being a sweetheart but I don't like that people see it as a weakness to take advantage of?

I've kind of distanced myself from animals both physically and mentally lately. Doesn't seem worth the inevitable heartache to form an attachement anymore and it only distresses me if I manage to keep my emotions under check. So I just don't that much anymore. I did train a volunteer before ditching the animal shelter and he's doing good from what I hear so I don't feel too guilty? I don't really have anything to say about that? If it isn't affecting you negatively I think it's a good thing you care about animals so much. :D

Aw, thank you. I don't think of myself as a good person, just as a person who compulsively cares about everyone and if they're okay. I mean, I don't do it to "be" a good person, I just do it because I can't stop myself from caring.

I feel you on not being an overt sweetheart-- I'm not a sappy person, and I'm not gentle. Most of my manners are old fashioned, or just downright reflex. I steered a Chinese transfer student across the road one dark and stormy night after we got off the bus together, because for god's sake the Chinese students take stupid risks in the road because they're not familiar with our road culture.

I wish I could distance myself from animals like that on one hand, but on the other, the love of having known them would never have been established. It hurts, and sometimes quite badly, to loose one, but I'll always remember how much I loved them and found them amazing when they were here.

I've lived on a farm since I was 4, and I've always been super attached to all of the animals. My rescue stories are kind of absurd and stupid sounding, but I'm proud for having saved them.

Like the one time when a family of ducks was wandering down from the pond. One of the ducklings came into the barn and was caught by one of the barn cats. The cat had it's head in her mouth, but I managed to catch her right as she was going to run off, and pry her jaws open. I had no idea if the baby was still alive, but I still walked a half mile to the pond to put it near the water.

The mama duck was swimming in circles and quacking in distress, because she lost a baby. The baby heard her and started peeping in my hands. So when I bent and opened my hands, it toddled out, and plopped into the water, and they reuinted in the center of the pond and started swimming circles together.

I was repeatedly told to leave the cat alone because there was nothing I could do to save the duckling, circle of life and all that, but I did anyway because I couldn't bear to not do something.

Again, sorry if I come across as bigging myself up. I just love everyone/thing.

I feel this way about the world too sometimes, so YANA. IDK how to describe it without sounding douchey, but sometimes I feel like going I JUST LOVE EVERYTHING jkdhfjshfkgdkk because everything has stuff that's so wonderful about it and the idea of anything bad happening to anyone ever except to really bad people -- and then only as an impetus for them turning over a new leaf -- upsets and disturbs me.

I've never been in romantic love either (been in lust, infatuated, had massive crushes, idolized, yes, and I've been extremely attracted to someone who I loved without actually being in love with him, but never in love) and it's really hard for me to imagine falling in love with anyone in the stage of life I'm in right now in a remotely plausible way.

But I can imagine myself falling in love, I can hypothesize what falling in love might be like because I think I have definitely fallen in love non-romantically with people before, and I kind of assume romantic love is comparable, since the way other people describe being in romantic love resonates with and makes sense to me. But I don't think love is a finite thing where your ability to be in love with one person is hampered if you love everyone else to pieces too. In my experience, love is more like a feedback loop.

this anon comments to echo your feelings

this is exactly how I've felt regarding love

it's nice to know it's not just me

thank you, thread :)

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