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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-12-31 06:44 pm

[ SECRET POST #2190 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2190 ⌋

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[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-01-01 02:59 am (UTC)(link)
Oops. That was meant to be anon.

Yeah? I grew up in an environment that fetishized weight in women and then spent my teenage years learning thin is in and i'm stocky and muscular so no matter which insecurity i'm dealing with i'm always the loser. So when I'm being hard on myself I try and switch tactics and give whatever I'm fixating on a nickname and focus on how it helps me, how awesome it is, like it's an enthusiastic part that just wants to please me so I tell it what I like about it, or tease it for being so excitable (eg. My boobs are so big because they're eager puppies who want to hug the world and make sure I never starve! My ass is so flat because it's shy and doesn't like any of the foods I've eaten yet! My hair frizzes up in humid weather because it likes basking in the attention! Etc. Etc.)

I also have internalized modesty issues with showing my knees/elbows or wearing clothes that fit so I try and tease my knees and ask them if they're excited to be out in the sunshine today or I pretend my belly is enjoying my t-shirt's cottony hug to distract myself from feeling irrationally slutty.

...I'm realizing how this sounds.

(Anonymous) 2013-01-01 03:09 am (UTC)(link)
Does this sound a little fucked up? Yes. But is it allowing you to function in a way that is not actively hurting yourself? You bet. It's okay, all of us have our weird coping mechanisms. I imagine myself as just a body, without much of a face (or a different face - I really, REALLY hate my nose and face shape), and tell myself that white people are stupid and haven't caught on to the fact that a big booty and thighs and love handles are sexy. Yay for racial stereotyping? (Even though black men are the only ones that try to pick me up in bars?)

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-01-01 03:30 am (UTC)(link)
Well it's nice to know I haven't completely outed myself as a freak!

My face is the one thing I like. Probably because my little sister greatly resembles me and I think she is the specialest special to ever walk the earth. (Don't tell her I admitted that tho) I still have issues with accepting people being sexually attracted to me as a thing I'm allowed to enjoy yet so mostly I focus on finding my body endearing or badass for powering me through workouts but I hope to get there!

Honestly a leetle jealous of your bootyliciousness. :) My ideal body type is tiny boobs and a big ass, exactly the opposite of what I have. But I guess people always focus on wanting what they don't have?

(Anonymous) 2013-01-01 06:39 am (UTC)(link)
I just want to say, muscular stocky women are JUST MY TYPE
I'm happy you're becoming more confidant! I'm in the same place as you. C:

(Anonymous) 2013-01-01 04:25 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah rock that booty and those thighs! Hell yeah!

Personally I have hella hips and I've learned how to perfect The Walk with them. That plus a new haircut and the right clothes and I get tonnnns of numbers.

(Anonymous) 2013-01-01 03:22 am (UTC)(link)
I think it sounds rather adorable, actually <3

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-01-01 03:35 am (UTC)(link)
Heh. Thanks!
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[personal profile] therangerking 2013-01-01 04:47 am (UTC)(link)
You sound adorable, actually. /hugs tight. Whatever that works that makes you like yourself more is perfectly fine. It's a coping mechanism, man. Everyone's coping mechanisms are different, and at least you're not turning to drugs of some sort to deal. ♥
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[personal profile] lunabee34 2013-01-01 04:49 am (UTC)(link)
It sounds like you found a kick-ass healthy way to approach your body. Go you!

(Anonymous) 2013-01-01 09:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Ehh, this doesn't sound too weird to me. I mean, it does in the sense that i can't imagine doing it, but it's not like you name your body parts (Cat Stevens, anyone?).