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fandomsecrets2013-01-02 06:55 pm
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I guess that part is sort of weird for me? The idea of spending Christmas alone is really depressing for me and luckily I have a great family, but if for some reason I ever was in that position, and someone invited me even with just "hey, I don't mind if you come over" I would take them up on it. I wouldn't need to be prodded to "admit" that I'm lonely. Do people do that a lot?
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(Anonymous) 2013-01-03 03:44 am (UTC)(link)I imagine many people would take it as an affront to their pride or something
yes, it does happen :(
people can be stubborn about many things that harm them (I would know; I've been there)
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As for the prodding: Firstly I'm not even sure OP is being prodded. Actually that's not how I read it the first time...I read it as: a lot of people express their worry, and it's annoying I get asked a lot. If that's the case, it's not prodding. It's OP being annoyed because s/he gets asked often. But obviously, person B doesn't know person A already asked, and so on.
As for prodding in general, I think it's sort of culturally/regionally dependent. Half my family's Czech, and (especially in the older generations) that's really, really common. Like, if you go visit, and you're offered food (which you will be) and you say "no thank you", you'll be asked a second, third, fourth time... It's a sort of weird dance you do, where it's assumed the one person is too modest to say "yes" to food, but the host isn't a good host unless they make absolutely sure they're not really hungry.
It sounds a bit weird when I describe it like that, but I hope you sort of get the picture.
Then again, I've totally seen people outside my family prod too. Mostly these tend to be very social-oriented well-meaning people, who really have trouble accepting that people can actually be happier alone...
Mind you, it might just be my social circle.
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It is very very culturally dependent. There are many, many cultures where traditionally it's rude to dive right in on the first offer of food or drink because it makes it seem like the only reason you came to their home/party/whatever. The first refusal is seen as "proof" that you're there for the company and not just because they'll feed you.
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(Anonymous) 2013-01-03 07:29 pm (UTC)(link)off-topic: I love your username c: it's so cool and cute
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