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⌈ Secret Post #2192 ⌋

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Comments

[diet_poison]

And I'm really sorry all that happened to you. But just like with the making fun thing, not all extroverts do things like that. Those people are being rude and obtuse, and probably need to have some things pointed out to them. But they are not all extroverts.

You can't help how you are as an extrovert but how you are is the opposite of how introverts are and they can't help it either.

I really don't know what I said to make you assume that I actually don't realize this.

[(Anonymous)]

I've never met someone who hasn't asked at least twice, because that's considered the polite thing to do. It's the polite thing to do because about 75% of people are extroverts so MOST people WANT to be asked at least twice if they're really really sure. Most people are appreciative when the inviter is concerned that they don't want to come to the party. For a minority of people, it's a tacit reproach that they never come to parties.

You can't help how you are as an extrovert but how you are is the opposite of how introverts are and they can't help it either.

I mean it's no one's fault and there's not much to do about it and even less to be offended about on either side of the issue. One's nature, by definition, antagonizes the other, and it's boring to only have friends who are introverts/extroverts like you, so clashes are bound to happen.

I doubt many people complain about it in day to day life because that's just how things are. However, it's fun to vent sometimes.

[diet_poison]

Huh...I guess my experiences have been really different?

When I ask someone if they want to do something, and they say "I'm busy" or "I'm tired", I don't see the point of pushing it. I might say something like "well if you change your mind/become free feel free to join me!" I might ask them what they're doing if they're busy, as a way of making conversation (if I know them well). But I guess I don't really like, ask people multiple times? I didn't realize that most people *did*. I guess some do but I find that kind of think somewhat annoying. It usually makes me feel bad, if I'm too tired/don't want to see them/actually *do* have something going on, when they ask me multiple times, so I try to avoid doing it to others. I didn't realize this was an introvert/extrovert thing, I just thought it was common decency.

I guess I must be kinda weird then, if most people want to be asked twice. *shrug* It would be far from the first time that I've interpreted some social norm differently from a lot of the people around me.

Also, part of it might be because I'm kind of blunt. I think all this social dancing, "well no doesn't REALLY mean no", "they must just need to be convinced!", and other cases of not saying what you mean the first time, or taking someone else's word for how they feel/what they want, is just silly. I tend to say what's on my mind, the first time. That can be a good thing or a bad one haha.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, I wouldn't know since I'm not most people, it doesn't help that I'm pretty awkward :) I just believe that if practically everyone does something, then it's the socially accepted thing to do.

I have seen some extroverted friends regret their first "no" and be pretty glad that they got asked again. Again I just assume that everyone I know = good representation of everyone else. (it's probably what's causing all the confusion in this thread).

Honestly? The world would be a better place if everyone had a more direct attitude, so I'd say you're doing it right.

[diet_poison]

Again I just assume that everyone I know = good representation of everyone else.

I think we're all doing that lol.

:)