[ SECRET POST #2213 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2213 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

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Comments

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I'm incredible unhappy in the major I chose. There's nothing in the world that would make me happier than switching to the one that I actually enjoy and decent at. But I can't bear to disappoint my mother, who was so happy and proud when I went into it.

I don't know what to do. The longer I stay in this major, the more depressed and suicidal I feel. But the thought of my mother being unhappy distresses me even more.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Well, your mother probably isn't going to become depressed and suicidal if you switch majors. College should be about you and what you want to learn. Explain to her that you're sorry if she's disappointed, but the courses weren't a good fit, and you'd rather do something about it now while you still can.

I understand it sucks disappointing a parent, but her unhappiness about it shouldn't outweigh your mental health. Do what's right for you. And good luck <3

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

She'll probably be even unhappier if you become suicidal and act on it. You have to do what makes you happy.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

As someone who nearly killed themselves at the thought of her mother finding out she might not be able to graduate in time... I was assured wholeheartedly that my mother cared way more about my mental health and welfare than my college career. So I get it.

She may be disappointed, at worst, but I'm sure she'd rather see you happy. And if she doesn't, um, that's too bad?

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

If your mother is anything like mine (ie. pushes me into things because she thinks its for my benefit), then I think she'd be far, far more upset if you died.

Try to have a talk to her. Explain that this is making you feel depressed and suicidal. No grade is worth your life. If she is truly your mother and she loves you, she will understand.

And if you switch to the major you enjoy, and are good at - aren't you more likely to succeed and do well, rather than doing poorly at something you don't enjoy?

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[insanenoodlyguy]

In the worst case scenario, your mother will probably die before you.

So, do you really want to find the rest of your life after that point to be you in a job you hate base don a major you hate? Or switch now and have a shot at a happy life?

Not to mention the gigantic waste of money. And the fact that you'll likely you'll burn out or fail (deliberately or not) anyway so now you'll be a disappointing failure instead of a possibly disappointing emerged adult that knows to get out of a destructive situation.

Tell mom how it is frankly, like a boss. Switch.


VISUALIZE! THIS IS YOU NOW

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I would like to +1 all the other people in this thread.

Your mom will be far more relieved and happy that you're alive and happy.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

I wasted a lot of time and money (not to mention emotions) trying to make my mother happy by finding a major that would "pay", instead of what I wanted to do. If I had to do it over again I would have switched/gone for a writing major in the first place.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[saku]

i wanted to major in physics and astronomy. astronomy/astrophysics has been one of my only constant interests in life. i thought i could get by on a major i liked at the time, and liked for many years, but as i predicted, my interest in it fell. i'm now in my fifth year of college and suspect i have 2 more years to go. i'm broke as fuck, depressed as fuck and i hate being here. i more or less no longer have the choice to switch majors, because i financially cannot afford it. most kids my age have graduated from university by now. at this point i have to stick with what i picked and that's a hard pill to swallow.

i get that you want your mother to be happy, but this is your life. the longer you wait, the harder it will be to change when you finally realise it's the best thing for you. do it now, while you still can; making amends with mom is going to be easier, in the long run, than trying to swallow the same pill i am for the rest of your life.