Speaking as someone with zero interest in or understanding of sex outside of a committed, exclusive relationship... I profoundly don't understand this sentiment. Why does a person's choices of what to do with their bodies make them shameful or morally deficient? Seriously, I don't get it. Imagine this scenario:
Woman: "Hi! You're cute."
Man: "Thanks! So are you."
Woman: "I was wondering, are you single?"
Man: "As a matter of fact, I am! I won't be in town for very long, though."
Woman: "That's perfect; I'm actually looking for a short-term arrangement."
Man: "Sounds good to me. Just so you know, I've had a recent STD test, which came back clean, and I've got condoms."
Woman: "Great! Same here with the STD test, and I'm on the pill -- though I also brought condoms."
Man: "Where would you feel most comfortable doing this?"
Woman: "Your place, if you don't mind me giving my friends the address for emergencies."
Man: "Sensible precaution; no problem. Here you go."
Woman: "Thanks! I'm looking forward to the sex!"
Man: "Me too."
What exactly is either of them doing that is bad, shameful, or wrong? I don't get what you want to judge them for, or why you object so strongly to people saying that these hypothetical people shouldn't be made to feel ashamed of their actions.
It's not just an "opinion." Not enjoying spicy food is an opinion. Not enjoying American football is an opinion. Thinking that people who have lots of sex/enjoy casual sex/dress in a way that makes them appear sexually available are bad and should feel bad is not just an opinion. It's imposing your personal preferences and standards on others (even if only in silent judgment), and I don't understand why you think doing so is a good thing, or something to be proud of.
Re: Non-fandom Secrets
Woman: "Hi! You're cute."
Man: "Thanks! So are you."
Woman: "I was wondering, are you single?"
Man: "As a matter of fact, I am! I won't be in town for very long, though."
Woman: "That's perfect; I'm actually looking for a short-term arrangement."
Man: "Sounds good to me. Just so you know, I've had a recent STD test, which came back clean, and I've got condoms."
Woman: "Great! Same here with the STD test, and I'm on the pill -- though I also brought condoms."
Man: "Where would you feel most comfortable doing this?"
Woman: "Your place, if you don't mind me giving my friends the address for emergencies."
Man: "Sensible precaution; no problem. Here you go."
Woman: "Thanks! I'm looking forward to the sex!"
Man: "Me too."
What exactly is either of them doing that is bad, shameful, or wrong? I don't get what you want to judge them for, or why you object so strongly to people saying that these hypothetical people shouldn't be made to feel ashamed of their actions.
It's not just an "opinion." Not enjoying spicy food is an opinion. Not enjoying American football is an opinion. Thinking that people who have lots of sex/enjoy casual sex/dress in a way that makes them appear sexually available are bad and should feel bad is not just an opinion. It's imposing your personal preferences and standards on others (even if only in silent judgment), and I don't understand why you think doing so is a good thing, or something to be proud of.