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friend advice

[(Anonymous)]

I'm having kind of a difficult time with some friends. I've made the most amazing friends this year, and I love them to death, but lately they've been fighting all the time and I am stuck in the middle not knowing what to do. There's just the three of us, and I'm not used to dealing with these situations. Those usually blow over, at least, but this time I'm involved.

Friend A and I have the same major (sort of), so Friend B winds up left out of some of our activities sometimes because of it. This weekend was especially bad in that sense, with the addition of a non-major-related activity in which I accidentally invited myself to Friend A's other friend's event, and Friend B was not invited because Friend A got in trouble for letting me come in the first place.

The point is that Friend B got left out and I feel really bad about it. But at the same time, I feel like there was not much I could do about any of these situations, and I don't know how to fix this. I feel like it would be easier, weirdly, if we were leaving her out intentionally and doing it just because-- at least then we could apologize and stop doing it. But the way it is, it's all unintentional and awkward and apologizing might just embarrass Friend B. The other problem is that she doesn't want to talk about it at all, so the three of us just wind up awkwardly sitting around and she kind of just doesn't speak much at all except to respond to things tersely. Friend A and I keep trying to talk about it, but it just seems to make things worse somehow. I don't know what to do and I'm really upset because I really, really like Friend B and I don't want this to ruin things!

Re: friend advice

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe the solution is to schedule more activities that all of you will enjoy, but that don't require you to talk, to break the ice? But TBH, Friend B sounds from your description like the kind of passive-aggressive person who goes around slamming drawers and cupboards, and giving snappish one-word replies whenever spoken to, while insisting that they're not angry, of course not, where would you get that idea?

Re: friend advice

[(Anonymous)]

spend quality time with B, make her feel appreciated

hopefully she will get past her upset that way, and maybe then you will have a nice talk, once feelings aren't running so high