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⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

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[Otoyomegatari]

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[Girls und Panzer]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]

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[Monster High]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]

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[Jackass 3D]

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[Paranatural]

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[Angelina Jolie]

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[Der Ring des Nibelungen]

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[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]

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[Medium]

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[The Americans]

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[The Mindy Project]

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[5Dolls, T-ARA]

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[A Good Day To Die Hard]

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[Harry Potter]

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[linked for porn, Spartacus: Vengeance]

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Feeling attraction = acting on instinct? Huh?

Feeling attraction = not being able to control it = acting on instinct.

I disagree, obviously, I think it's just a matter of deciding, yeah that's a bad idea, I'm not going to think THAT ever again, and moving on with your life.

But you still had the initial "That person is attractive!" reaction. Even if you push it out of your mind from then onwards, the feeling was involuntary to begin with. That's the part you cannot control.

ayrt

Why can't you control that? You can decide how you're going to act or react to something/someone, unless you're in a life-or-death situation or something. Which attraction isn't.

If I was actively looking to be attracted to someone, I would be. As I am not, it really doesn't register on me if someone is "attractive" or unattractive.

This gets me in a lot of trouble though because I treat everyone equally and try to be friendly to everyone.... and every unmarried person of the opposite sex that I have been friendly towards, have always misinterpreted my being friendly as my being attracted to them. When I really really wasn't.

If they think their own reactions (to my being friendly) are beyond their control and involuntary (it isn't, not if you don't want it to be), then I have even less respect than I did for these people, once I realized they were taking my being friendly to be something it wasn't.

Attraction works differently for different people. yo.

To the point where for some people they can't even control their own thoughts? I find that disturbing, tbh.

Well gee, I think you found the solution to homosexuality. Think it away.

.......what?

ayrt you replied to btw; where did that even come from? How did you get to there from what I said.......?

Huh? Weren't you the one saying that we can control if we want to be attracted? And isn't homosexuality the attraction to the same sex...?

They were, and it's very amusing because you can tell they were trying to be all progressive about attraction and now they're backed up into a corner.

The anon in question.

I have no idea what you're accusing me of here. I wasn't trying to be progressive and I'm not backed into a corner and I am not being condescending, a robot, a superhuman, or a moron, and I honestly was not trying to troll.

No, your logic does take us there. If you can look at a person and can decide if they are attractive or not simply because you do or do not want to be attracted to them, you could change your sexuality at will by deciding "I will/wont like this gender!"

Of course, you also said attraction means you somehow can't control acting on it... so you are either a troll or a moron.

Edited 2013-03-01 01:48 (UTC)

That isn't what I said...or perhaps I am not making myself clear. Given that I've been called a robot, superhuman, and now a moron and a troll ITT I'm losing my patience here.

I mean generally, I am not looking for a relationship rn, so when I look at people of either gender I see them as people...not as objects/attractive vs. unattractive etc. If I was looking for a relationship, I'm sure I would categorize people like that (though it's unfair IMO).

Just because I said I have had problems with the opposite gender in the past (which is true) did not imply anything about sexual orientation, nor did I intend for it to. That got brought up out of the blue.

Re: Is it wrong...

world_eater - 2013-03-01 02:29 (UTC) - Expand

insanenoodlyguy - 2013-03-01 02:45 (UTC) - Expand

(Anonymous) - 2013-03-03 01:08 (UTC) - Expand

How did you not?

It's the same mindset, that's what world_eater is pointing out. Gay people are obviously choosing to be attracted to the wrong people! All they have to do is decide not to be turned on by the same sex, and voila, problem solved! Anybody who says otherwise is just lacking in willpower, blah blah blah.

It doesn't work like that.

That's really odd - if I was l"looking to be attracted" it probably wouldn't happen. It's something that happens spontaneously for me, or not at all.

ayrt Maybe I should have said "if I was looking for a relationship"? Which I am not, so being "attracted" to people is not something that even crosses my mind when I meet or interact with people.

I was never looking for relationship when I actually started having a relationship. Maybe that's the exception in the other extreme,but it's a spontaneous thing for me.

*shrug* Maybe I am the exception in the other extreme. I'm not sure how something like this would work in my life, or if I would even want it to (I'm leaning towards big no)

is this

is this some super elaborate trolling about demisexuality or asexuality or something

???

anyway, if you're being honest here, than, yeah, you are the exception in the other extreme

for most people, feeling that initial spark of attraction is a completely different process from any conscious thought

people can think "oh hey, that person is hot" without giving a shit about their personality, just their looks, apparent attitude, style, whatever

the whole "hmm is this person worth my time/should I let them know I'm interest/should I curb this or let it grow" is conscious and comes later, and THAT is the thing that people do have control over

Can I have that superpower??? 0___0

Sure, just live your life...? Sorry I'm not sure how I got this or why it makes me abnormal.

lol I'm just saying I'm in a situation right now where it would reeeeally help me out if I were able to do that...

I'm sorry that you live on the island of ugly people.

People can be attracted to people they find physically unattractive. Personality counts for something.

You... don't seem to understand how emotion and desire actually work.