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⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

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[Otoyomegatari]

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[Girls und Panzer]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]

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[Monster High]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]

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[Jackass 3D]

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[Paranatural]

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[Angelina Jolie]

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[Der Ring des Nibelungen]

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[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]

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[Medium]

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[The Americans]

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[The Mindy Project]

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[5Dolls, T-ARA]

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[A Good Day To Die Hard]

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[Harry Potter]

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Maybe you are some superhuman, but no, I can't.

I can control jumping someone and fucking them senseless, but I can't control whether I have chemistry with them or not.

ayrt

Define "chemistry" -- what does this even mean and why can't you control it? (IMO "chemsitry" is either an urban myth or an excuse people use to excuse bad behaviour -- especially if they misread "chemsity" where there is none).

So far ITT I have been accused of being a robot and/or superhuman. I assure everyone reading this, I'm not. If I want to not think about something or even someone in a certain way, I won't. Why is this so strange?

Seriously, it's not an urban myth. It's when there's a clear attraction between two people. This is usually visible by small body language cues like touching someone a bit longer than friends would, longer eye contact, one or both parties fiddling with stuff nervously.

It's not like an exact science, but it's definitely a thing.

And why would it be an excuse for bed behaviour?

If both parties are single and interested, there is no issue. If one of both parties are involved with someone else, that still doesn't mean you jump each other like animals. I had chemistry with a friend and it's not like I went to have an affair.

What you say is strange to a lot of us because we do not just randomly turn off feelings.

Edited 2013-03-01 01:50 (UTC)

ayrt

bed behaviour LOL sorry I'm sorry but I laughed. I am usually pretty conscious of what I do and how I act, so I would tend NOT to do things like touch a bit longer (or at all except in certain circumstances), longer eye contact, etc. precisely because those are the things that are often misinterpreted (and I certainly would not want to mislead the other party....though sometimes the other party has willfully chosen to mislead themselves despite my giving every sign to the contrary after the initial misunderstanding (which in my case, accidentally making eye contact, without even intending to, was what earned me a stalker for four years).

Thanks for not calling me a troll or a moron btw. As I said upthread, it's not a matter of turning off individual feelings, but more of a this is not where my life went, and so it's not an issue (except when others decide to make it an issue). So I don't have those feelings in the first place? Not because I'm strange or anything (though most of the thread seems to disagree) I just don't want a relationship, so I don't see people as anything other than unique individuals. I don't feel spontaneously attracted to random strangers. That seems strange (and like it would be inconvenient) to me.....

I believe you genuinely feel this way...it's just probably a good idea to not assume the rest of the world does.

I do apologize if I made it seem as though I was assuming everyone thought/felt this way, I don't and didn't, though I may not have made that clear. Though the wank (sorry Case) made it fairly clear that no one else does feel or think this way, and that I am several orders of magnitude of horrible or something.

I don't think you're horrible, it's just that the way you feel is not the norm (which is cool, but you were apparently not aware of this?) and you tried to apply your own experience to everyone, which doesn't really work, because most of us can't switch feelings/thoughts off at will.

...and I suppose it escalated from there. Sorry if you're being attacked as a person.

I don't think it's that no one (except you) feels this way. I think people vary a lot when it comes to how much attraction they experience to others, and how much attraction they experience when they aren't interested in actually being with someone. You sound like you're on the extreme end of the spectrum. Which isn't horrible. It's just not the norm. I think for most people, attraction is something mostly spontaneous that they can't control. But some people may find that how much attraction they experience can depend a bit on their life circumstances and how focused (or not focused) they are on romance.

i seem to be following you around this thread constantly feeling like saying "I AGREE WITH YOU", and i do - dude, you are making perfect sense to me!

chemistry is wishful thinking...you like someone and start to perceive all these little nuances to mean that they must be attracted to you as well

"chemistry" outside of fanfiction makes me lol hard

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