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⌈ Secret Post #2249 ⌋

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[Otoyomegatari]

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[Girls und Panzer]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic]

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[Monster High]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]

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[Jackass 3D]

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[Paranatural]

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[Angelina Jolie]

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[Der Ring des Nibelungen]

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[Mary Shelley's Frankenhole]

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[Medium]

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[The Americans]

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[The Mindy Project]

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[5Dolls, T-ARA]

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[A Good Day To Die Hard]

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[Harry Potter]

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No, but I feel like that makes me into some kid who can't deal with her own problems and has to run to an adult to get them to fix it.

Plus the classmates would get extremely offended and react to me and my group even worse, because he's already got this weird paranoid delusion thing going on about us.

And again, this isn't just my own paranoid delusions- everyone who works with him reports the same problems.

I think that is exactly why you SHOULD bring it up to someone in charge. This is affecting everyone's grades, and stress, and that is not fair to any of you. If he is such an issue that even mentioning it to a teacher is going to make it worse, that right there should be reason enough to have him removed. That's just going to get worse no matter what you do, so at least you can have it on record and hopefully those in charge can do something about it.

I'm still kind of wary about approaching professors, but I'll ask my groupmates and see if they're in with the idea too. If they think it will help, I'll try to say something to the prof.

As a college professor, I think you should absolutely talk to your teacher. This is the kind of thing we have the authority and the obligation to intervene in. *hugs*

Go to the professor when nobody else is around, let them know that you want to remain anonymous. Telling an authority figure is dealing with your own problems.

Try to get the rest of your group to all go to the professor together. That way it's not just about the conflict between you and him, it's about the fact that this guy is a problem and he needs to be dealt with.

Then you've got to talk to your professor. There isn't anything kidish about knowing when a person/situation is bad for you and your health, and the people around you, and doing something about it. You could ask the professor to have him moved to another group or have him work solo. Obviously you're in a lose-lose situation no matter how you deal with him; better to talk to the professor and have him seething across the room or something than baiting you to your face.

Though, if you really feel you can't talk to your professor, is there any way you could have your interaction online? Or split into groups among your group so you don't have to deal with him every class, or at least all of each class? Hot potato him amongst yourselves. Split the tasks you need to do and rotate who has to work with him, maybe even give him something to do separately from the rest of you.

If he's affecting your and others' ability to preform well in class then it becomes an academic issue and it's well within your right to tell your concern to the professor. Tell them this guy is making the working environment hostile and ineffective. Though I suggest getting at least part of the rest of the group to back you up about with the professor.

I could get half of my program to back me up about this guys' behavior.

But you're right, his behavior is definitely affecting us on an academic level; we spent an hour trying to agree on the phrasing of a single hypothesis. We would have been done in 10 minutes if he hadn't been there.

I'll definitely approach my group about talking to the prof. Last semester, this guy worked alone from my group, because he also couldn't agree on our research focus. If it wasn't his way, then it was totally incorrect, and he wouldn't (and isn't) amenable to compromises.

And he outright tells people that their desire to study something is worthless or stupid.

> And he outright tells people that their desire to study something is worthless or stupid.

He's toxic. His behaviour needs to be nipped in the bud. Go as high up in the chain of command as necessary to get him to stop.

I hope you guys manage to find a solution. good luck.

Go to the prof as a group. This idiot is the one acting like the child, IMO.

Never feel like you shouldn't report someone's abusive behavior, especially if he's making you feel this way.

This guy needs to be reported, if not to the professor then to the department head, or the dean of students.

Absurdly enough, my professor is also the head of graduate studies. I say absurd because he certainly has the power and pull to do something, but he's such a mild guy that I'm not sure he will.

I'll definitely bring it up to my group members, see if they're behind the idea, too.

If you can go en masse, definitely do so. Your professor may be mild, but he can't ignore it when a huge chunk of his class is complaining and upset and is seeing visible academic decline.

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