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⌈ Secret Post #2253 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Sometimes I feel like most parents only love their children because of biochemistry.

[(Anonymous)]

I dunno. Like they have a primal urge to protect them or see them as an extension of themselves but not a real emotional connection?

Re: Sometimes I feel like most parents only love their children because of biochemistry.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh yeah I see what you mean. Yeah I think an actual emotional connection on that level with your child is a much more personal and less automatic and more fraught and negotiated thing than the sort of automatic, fierce love. But that's kind of always the way with human beings? idk man.

Re: Sometimes I feel like most parents only love their children because of biochemistry.

[tabaqui]

So are you *saying* that most parents have no real emotional connection, or just imagining they don't?

Re: Sometimes I feel like most parents only love their children because of biochemistry.

[(Anonymous)]

Asking? A lot of the parents I know are very protective of their kids but they don't really enjoy spending time with them or engaging them on a real, attentive level like my mom did with me?

Re: Sometimes I feel like most parents only love their children because of biochemistry.

[tabaqui]

Sadly, a lot of people are crap-ass parents who had their kid(s) way too young and are too selfish to get that a kid is not a doll.

And some parents are just too caught up in their own drama to actually realize their kid is a human being instead of a burden.

I loved hanging out with my parents and we talked and had fun and did things together and i did my best to be the same to my daughter. I can't imagine not wanting to *engage* with her. She's awesome.

Re: Sometimes I feel like most parents only love their children because of biochemistry.

[kluify]

But you could say that any 'real emotional connections' (using your phrase) you make with people outside your immediatefamily - outside of those you supposedly are biochemically induced to love - are actually the result of evolutionary instincts to form an inclusive social network to increase your survival chances.

That is, you could reduce any aspect of human behaviour down to its biological/psychological/evolutionary core. And so, without getting into some kind of philosophical argument about what is it to be human, I guess I just don't know why you're drawing the distinction you are. Especially seeing as I'm pretty sure most people who care and nurture and profess love for their child beyond the first few years of its life have made a 'real emotional connection' with them - not matter if that connection began as a biochemical reaction.

Same as loving couples whose connection started as a flurry of pheremones or a rush of oxytocin post coitus or whatever - I don't think you'd call a relationship that lasts for years or decades simply the side effect of biochemistry. Or maybe you would, I don't know. Also, if you haven't noticed, I'm not a scientist - so sue me.