[ SECRET POST #2254 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2254 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[family guy (?), warning for cartoon rape]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 058 secrets from Secret Submission Post #322.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you for being understanding. I have to ask, though, by that logic, explicit images of childbirth are A-OK to not warn for on this site? Even if they don't include genitalia [say, a newborn covered in all the pleasantries of birth]? It's perfectly normal and natural.

[(Anonymous)]

That's not something most people will ever see. But a pregnant woman is something that nearly everyone on the planet will see multiple times in their life. Tokophobia affects such a small portion of the population and pregnancy is so common that it just isn't a reasonable thing to warn for.

[(Anonymous)]

This. You can't very well expect people to tag things 'Warning: perfectly ordinary human life.'

[(Anonymous)]

People also get killed every single day, that's perfectly ordinary human life. And some people are freaked out by images of death, but some aren't. I'm just as squicked out by images of pregnancy as other people would be at a dead body.
But my opinion doesn't matter, amirite? Because I should just get over it. People with phobias should just get over it.

[(Anonymous)]

Again, not something most people will ever see. But keep trying. Look, I'm sorry that you have a phobia. I am NOT trivializing it. But it's up to YOU to find ways to cope with it and when you're talking about something that affects a tiny portion of the population, it's unreasonable to expect others to conform to your preferred way of dealing with it.

[(Anonymous)]

Just ask case for the trigger warning already. Don't be surprised if he doesn't add one.

[(Anonymous)]

I think he probably would add it. People have requested uncommon TWs before and he's added them.

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, no, in psychiatric terms people being killed is not considered part of the normal sphere of human life. It's a traumatic event. Dead bodies? The varied responses in the population occur with high enough frequency that they can reasonably all be catered for. But pregnancy simply isn't one of those things to society at large.

And no, you don't have to 'just get over it', but you might want to consider getting help, because your ability to function is being affected by something that by all rights should not be having this effect. Even if you refuse help, as is your right, nobody owes you warnings for normalcy.

[(Anonymous)]

You should get help. If you're at the point where you're comparing childbirth with people violently dying, you're bending over backwards to make excuses for yourself.

[kallanda_lee]

Well, childbirth is pretty messy and gory, though. It all depends on what freaks you out. I've seen dead bodies before and while I feel sadness over it, and I find it disturbing a loved one can just end up an empty shell - I do not think there's anything inherently disgusting about dead people.

Seeing an actual violent death - I can see how that would be traumatic. But just the body in aftermath? Not necessarily.

[(Anonymous)]

Childbirth isn't that messy. It doesn't get real gory until the placenta pops out and by then Mom usually has a sticky wet newborn to distract her anyway.

[kallanda_lee]

Well, if you're the mother....fortunately you don't see much of what's going down there. But as an onlooker I find it pretty awful.I saw a birthing video in high school and I found it borderline traumatic. I will gladly go without ever seeing that again.

[(Anonymous)]

Wimp.

[(Anonymous)]

It's generally assumed that if you're on fandomsecrets, that you consume a fair amount of popular media, so it makes sense that we take the majority of our trigger warnings from them. Things like rape, suicide, and self-harm are likely to get a show put at 10pm (or on a cable channel) or get a heavy rating slapped on a movie, and it's reasonable to assume that a person who was triggered by these things could avoid them by consuming less risky media.

Pregnancy, on the other hand, is everywhere, in media and in real life, and if it's something you can't handle, f!s can't be the biggest of your worries.

There's a phobia for everything, and there are real people suffering from all of them. The only way to make f!s 'safe' for everyone would be for each secret to be a text description of the picture and a link.

(Apiphobic anon from above, by the way. Not my place to say you MUST get over it, but it's worth considering that if you don't have to plan your life around avoiding a very common, everyday thing, it takes a lot of stress off your back.)

[astridv]

The only way to make f!s 'safe' for everyone would be for each secret to be a text description of the picture and a link.

Even that wouldn't be enough in some cases. A childhood friend of mine had a frog phobia and even hearing the word "frog" would make her queasy to the point of fainting.

[otakugal15]

I have a very common phobia: Spiders. but do I expect every image of a spider ever to have a warning posted? No.

Get over it. Pregnancy is a common thing in human life. It will not be warned for. Though I am sorry it scares you.

[(Anonymous)]

But my opinion doesn't matter, amirite? Because I should just get over it. People with phobias should just get over it.
Nobody said that, you fucking snowflake.

[hwc]

In that case I think it's more the blood people object to/would warn for, rather than the birth itself. Post a picture with a woman obviously in labour but keep her genitalia and the blood-covered newborn out of view and most people won't object.


A birth is a joyous occasion for most people, or at least society as a whole views it as such, which is why most people don't realise that there might be something upsetting about giving birth/pregnancy.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not my site to be dictating where some big warning line for everyone is to be drawn. We all put our lines in different places. I probably wouldn't think twice about a gooey newborn because I work in hospitals and it's nothing new to me. But just like you did here, in most of my circles you're free to request a warning if you feel the need.